Should I be feeling this way

[Jotobel3]

I would like some advise on how I should feel about going away or even socializing with these people anymore unless our friend confesses to his affair.

My husband wants me to go away with a couple that he has known since before we got together. We have socialised with them on many occasions before but this time is different since I found out that the male friend has been sleeping with someone they both know.

Now I'm never in touch with the female friend outside of us getting together so wouldn't say we were the best of friends but we get on well when we do all meet up.

Is it unreasonable for my husband and his friend to just expect me to go camping with them. I feel I would be giving the impression that its all fine to cheat. It's not the first time the friend has cheated on his wife and even has a love child she knows nothing about.

The other woman has even been in our friends house during the affair and that is the part I find is taking it to another level of disrespect.

Am I just being dramatic or should I just pretend it hasn't happened. I don't want to give my husband the idea that I think this behaviour is ok by not kicking up a fuss.

Any advise will be great

No I agree with you and actually think your partner expecting you to as well as covering up and encouraging his friend is morally ambiguous too.

Birds of a feather...

I wouldn't go. It would feel like I'm supporting it.

I recently threw a birthday party for my DH and was pretty ticked off that one of his coworkers brought his OW, instead of his wife who was invited with him.

No, I wouldn't go. Awful situation. Say if you went, you wouldn't be able to not say anything. You won't be pressured to go.

The poor woman :( he sounds like an absolute a-hole

You have control of what you will and won't do. Tell your husband in no uncertain terms that you are NOT going. For him to insist otherwise is abusive and uncalled for. I for one would doubt my husband's sense of propriety to suggest otherwise. For fuck's sake. This whole situation is awful.

Tell her.

I am in a similar situation. I have told the OW thst we won't go anywhere if they are both there. However, I prefer the wronged wife anyway and I am happy to spend time with them but I keep my mouth shut.