I've been in a relationship for nearly 4 years. I was single for a long time, never met anyone who met my (somewhat exacting) standards. Then my DP came along.
The last 4 years have been great for me, my career has gone from strength to strength, my relationship with my DC has improved, I've done a lot of personal improvement. A lot is down to DPs encouragement, he's made me believe in myself and supported me like no one else has.
Except for him literally every bad thing has happened...unemployment (though he's now working), burglary (covered by insurance, but not nice), he's been involved with the police over a historic matter (that one was his fault but he's been through lots of therapy etc since then which has been a positive), he's suffered the loss of an immediate family member in very tragic circumstances, has recently lost contact with his DC (no court order preventing it, exw just decided she wouldn't allow it any more and has refused to discuss/ said she will ignore any court order made to compel her. He has seen solicitors and steps are ongoing there) and he's also had cancer. Cancer was caught early but it is of a type that the rate of recurrence is very high, and survival rates beyond 5-10 years are well under 50%. And he now has more symptoms and has been called back for another appt.
And I just think bloody hell what else can go wrong for him? It feels like our relationship has brought him nothing but shit. Before me he was fit, healthy, etc, now I'm constantly worrying what will happen next. Is it me, am I just bad luck?
I honestly believed in happy ever afters, but whilst I am very happy with him, and in our relationship, it's been a lot to happen on a very short space of time.