Am I mad to put up with this or should I just suck it up?

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I really don't know, some people say I am.

My dh left and we've been separated around 6 months. He did have sort of an ea with someone who was a friend and that caused a lot of friction during our marriage and is still in his life (also old family friend so still sees them even though they are aware of this).

My Dd liked her and her dc, when she's with her dad she always asks if they can play or all go out together, which they do but it's driving me mad! I'm here trying to deal with the fallout of our marriage breakup and I feel like no one had any respect for the way i feel.

I haven't said much, I have mentioned it a few times , but exdh knows how I feel, as he did when we were together but just laughs it off. It really hurts.

As he's your ex I don't think you can really stop him seeing the woman unfortunately

What do you mean by sort of EA?

Because its sounds like he is spending time with a family friend. A friend he has had for years that you have never been comfortable with.

If it was an actual EA i get your issue. But there isnt anything you can do.

But if they were friends and you just didnt like him having female friends or this friend in particular, i cant see how you wpuld expect him to drop someone he wouldnt drop during the marriage.

Its just really difficult to tell wethee this peeson is his friend and you are jealous. Or that the relationship was inappropriate.

Either way, there isnt much you can do unfortunately. Though i get it must hurt.

Female friends were fine, no problem with that. She was different, they became very close and it was very obvious to everyone (including his family) that she wanted more. He insisted that this wasn't the case, but she started being quite manipulative and lying to cause trouble between us.

Don't get me wrong, she wasn't the reason we separated, but definitely had a lot to Do with it. It's so hard to explain, she's very pushy and sort of takes over...once she's in your life it's quite hard to get rid of her (we tried!)

I'm certainly not a jealous person butI just feel so hurt. I know theres not much I can do about it now.

@saiman, I used to be comfortable with her, she was my friend also until all of the games started.

Op if both you and him wanted rid of her, it could be done.

He cant have had an ea with her and still seeing her now and wantes rid of her.

He didnt want rid of her, really. Even just as friends.

There isnt anything you can do. If he didnt cut contact when he was with you, he isnt going to now.

I know. There's nothing I can do, it just hurts.

I feel like it's holding me back from moving on being in my face the whole time.

I know its painful. It so shit.

Dont let it hold you back. Thats only hurting you.

I know the type. Must be hard for you. I'm sure your ex is hurting too even if it doesn't look like it. It will get better hang in there

Thankyou for your comments. It's early days I guess...im getting there.

How old is your DD? I think it's okay to mention gently that it hurts your feelings when she talks about the OW. You can't really have any control over what your Ex does, but you don't have to totally protect him with your DD either.

She's 8, I think she must have picked up on some of it, she says ow asks a lot of questions about daddy