Couples Therapy

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I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. We are honestly in a great place 90% of the time but 10% of the time we have the same repeating problem.
I am nervous to go to couples therapy. I have seen a therapist myself over the years but i am afraid he wont give it a real chance. I just don't know how to talk to him sp that he will want to make a change.

Any thoughts?

Has he agreed to go?

Why therapy if in great place 90% of time if you dont mind me Asking? Could this 10% issue not be solved over time & growth between you both?

Pru24 the problems hasn't gone away over time. Its been a year since the issue arose and although we have discussed it, his actions haven't changed.

What is the problem, exactly? It's hard to respond if we don't know. I hope some of us can help you.

Yeah it is very hard to respond to this post! Without knowing the reason, its hard to understand as i cant see why if my relationship was great 90%of the time, i would be considering therapy. Me & my partner have been together for 10 years and even when we have been at our lowest point in the relationship, have never considered therapy. This obviously is your choice and should be respected but its very hard to understand why its neccessary from your post.

All relationships have issues, if your not going to disclose the 10% which u dont have too, then maybe you need to weigh up if your willing to be patient and Work through the 10% and whether you feel the 90% is worth fighting through these issues for.

I think we need to know what the problem is before we can really respond properly.