So controlled by boyfriend ...

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My friend I think is in a ridiculous situation.
She met someone 4 years ago and within 7 weeks she was pregnant.
After he told her the pill was dangerous to her body and stop taking it (she did )
She used to meet up with me every Thursday for a catch up (boyfriend was at work ) then he changed his shifts so he had Thursday off and she has to spend the day with him.
If he is off work she has to be with him.
Now today we were meant to be meeting up (he is at work) get a text this morning saying "johns decided to take the day off work so I can't meet up,he wants me to stay with him"
If he didn't know we were meeting up he wouldn't of stayed off work.
Is there any point in me saying anything?
Loads more examples which prove he is a total control freak (what she eats,wears) etc

Sounds dreadful, I would print off some info about abuse and show her it next time you meet. Ask if she recognises any signs of her relationship in there. Explain you are concerned.

Don't be too critical be supportive

You could say something but unfortunately, it will not make any difference right now.
She may wake up to it at some point.
Just tell her you are concerned about her controlling partner and that when she is ready you will be there for her.
You could also have a look at the Womens Aid website.
There should be some advice on there about how to deal with this kind of thing.
My DSis was in an abusive relationship and I couldn't really help her until she was totally ready to get out.
She got there in the end it just took some time.

I don't even know where to begin with talking to her.
He clicks his fingers and she jumps.
Every time we arrange she says "il have to check that he is at work"

I think she's created her open problem here. Be supportive, that's all you can do

If that was you wouldn't you just say
"Sorry for plans with a friend,you will have to entertain yourself"
I don't know why she can't just tell him straight ...