In laws and grandkids

[Missushb]

My dh has two sisters. Both are mollycoddled still my his parents, dh left to it. We have two kids ds and dd. Sister in law has one daughter. She is 2.5 and our dd is 6 months so she's been around for a while now! The other day at a family gathering my fil was cuddling sister in laws daughter and called her his bestest girl...in front of me holding our dd, his other grand daughter. Is it just me or is this just a bit cruel and really thoughtless? Fil always says and does things in this vein. My dh wasn't in the room at the time or I think he would have said something, although he generally lets it all go over his head and he's had it his whole life with his sisters blatantly being favoured. The next time something like this happens I would like to say something, without starting a full blown drama, how do you make your point without sounding like you're the one in the wrong about being annoyed about stuff like this?

When he is talking to your dd, he will no doubt say exactly the same things to her.
At 6 months your dd doesn't understand words, she picks up on tone of your voice.

A lot of Grandparents (and parent) will tell their beloved grandchildren they are the best / loveliest / etc. My Dad had 3 dds and we were all 'his favourite girl'. My BiL has 3 dds and, again, they are all 'bestest'.

I think you are completely over reacting.

Well if what you say is true about DHs position in the family then your FIL was telling the truth, other girl is his bestest and yours is second class as her father's daughter.

The problem isn't that he said it out loud, it's that he feels that way. You can't berate him into starting to love his son equally and thus your daughter too.

All you can do is spend as little time as possible with them, love your own children equally if you have more and teach your daughter to eye roll when her DGD exposes his prejudice against her father like this.