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Having a last minute meltdown

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Strongerwithoutyou · 29/06/2017 21:58

I really don't know what to do. Been with my dp for a few months, all going well although we've had a few difficult few weeks with bereavement and job loss. Due to distance between us and my current rental property being sold, we decided to take the plunge and for me and dd to move in with dp mid August. Have sorted out school, job etc.
I cannot stress enough that dp is fantastic. He treats me better than any man ever has, is great with my dd, is clearly in this for the long run and is just genuinely amazing.
BUT. Something is niggling me. And I don't know what it is. Dp is considerably older than me, and a few of his friends have mentioned that previously he 'hasn't had time for a relationship'. With everything that's going on ATM we're averaging seeing each other one night at the weekends and maybe 3-4 hours one weekday evening.
On paper I've got everything I could ever wish for in this man, but I can't shake the feeling that something's just not quite right. I don't know whether it's because I've been treated pretty badly in the past and this is just my insecurities or whether I need to trust my instinct as such.

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Orlandointhewilderness · 29/06/2017 22:03

Trust your instincts.
You have been with him a few months - that is not enough in my opinion to be moving in with him when you have a child. Give it some time.

If you will be there forever, what is an extra year before moving in together?

allegretto · 29/06/2017 22:10

Maybe it will be fine but why the rush? Take your time and find out for sure.

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