Is he being selfish?

[babayjane67]

Been with dp for 10 yrs& we have an 8 yr old dd. we have a local carnival coming up this wkend&dd is in the parade.dp has said he can't make it as he's got the opportunity to go to a do a recording with a film company who have advertised for local people to go&make crowd noise for the next film they're making.he's gotta be there for 9&it finishes at roughly 11.30.
Dd has to be at the parade point just before 10.30 when it starts.I don't drive so have had to ask around to see if someone can take us down as buses aren't easy to there either!
So dp is gonna completely miss his dd being in her first ever parade to do this crowd noise thing!
Am I right to think he's being pretty selfish?I thought once he knew they clashed he'd say he wouldn't do it&would come watch dd but he said no I WANT to do it!

Yes! When you said it was a film recording I thought "ok, so it's her parade v his film, fair enough he should go" but 'crowd noise'?! Really?!

As for the driving/bus thing I think it's unfair to expect him to ferry you and DD around - it would be good for you to be more independent so that you don't have to rely on him, but as that is the current situation, yes I'd expect him to forgo his crowd noise shite to take your DD and watch her in the parade, especially if she is very excited about it.

It's just not financially possible for me to learn at the moment.
If we were just going to watch the parade& then on down to the carnival it wouldn't be a problem as we could walk in about half an hr but where the parade is leaving from is a good way away.will take them good hr to walk it!so def med a lift down especially as out dd has trouble with her feet&legs since birth.
No its not his film!lol

Is it literally just making crowd noises, or will he be appearing in a crowd scene? If it's making noises only, I wouldn't bother but if I was going to appear in the film, I would pick that over the parade (sorry). There might not be another film opportunity, but presumably your dd will be in other parades and this one could be filmed.

It's literally just making crowd noises.
Yes I agree if he was actually gonna appear in it that would be different.I would just film it for him& yes there will prob be other times she's in it but this is her first.

She even asked if we could all go& do it which I was up for too if she didn't mind not doing the parade& dp did look to see if we could bit it's over 18s only.she was quite disappointed.
That's when I expected home to say he wouldn't do it but I was wrong!