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Tell me if you think this in fair?

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pudding21 · 28/06/2017 18:58

I left my EA ex (not married) 5 months ago. He hasn't worked for the last 5 years, I have paid everything. Prior to moving overseas we made a bit of money on our UK houses we owned together and equally paid the mortgages for all that time.

A few years ago my father gave me some early inheritance (enough to help us build the house of our dreams). Recently his father dies and he inherited a sum of money. Since I left the house I have continued to pay all the bills, including extra money so he can live. The money from his dads inheritance remains untouched.

I have suggested as is fair, we split the house 50:50 and his inheritance. I don't see why i should walk away from this considerably worse off than him. His Mum thinks I am being unreasonable, he called me money grabbing.

I am much stronger than I was a few months ago, and am trying to stand my ground with him, if not we will get lawyers involved and he knows this. I am actually furious that he thinks because my dad is still alive, that so therefore his fathers inheritance should be his. If we removed what I put in, and then split the profit he would be significantly worse off. I guess he knows this, and his comments are just to get to me, but do you think I am reasonable?

OP posts:
pudding21 · 28/06/2017 18:59

Oh been together 21 years, 2 young kids. We have a 60:40 arrangement with childcare (me 60%).

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SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 28/06/2017 19:01

You need to stop doing this, he is taking you for a mug!

PookieDo · 28/06/2017 19:02

You aren't married. I wasn't married and I was totally fucked. I had to leave with just 50% equity nothing more.

PookieDo · 28/06/2017 19:03

But get legal advice

Aquamarine1029 · 28/06/2017 19:04

As you are not married, you don't have a leg to stand on regarding his inheritance, I'm afraid.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 28/06/2017 21:05

If your inheritance was sunk into joint assets, look into getting that deducted from equity. Get a SHL.

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