I've been kind of seeing someone, but his wife passed away, could it ever work?

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I'm currently sort of seeing someone - we go out for dates, etc. but he lost his wife 3 years ago. He is a really great guy but does often speak about her and that's fine, I absolutely want to be there for him. He has asked if we should be 'official' and I just don't know. I don't want to replace her and I feel like it will never work in a relationship way?

Can you talk to him about it? If not it might be a little early to be exclusive.

Apart from this issue is the relationship right for you? Maybe you're looking for reasons it wouldn't work.

No one can 'replace' his wife. It's been 3 years I'm sure by now he's ready for a new relationship. If you don't want a relationship with him then just say.

You wouldn't be replacing her. What make you think it couldn't work in a relationship way?

Does he have children? Is that why it feels a bit hesitant?

My partner is a widower ( his DW died 7years ago). I do understand that it is tricky and DP talks about his wife at first I found it hard, but over time I saw that this is part of the tremendously loyal and loving person I am attracted to. I know I will not ( and do not want) to replace her, but what I do feel is that he is the person I love because he was married and lost his wife.
Whilst you are not yet at this stage almost certainly what you like about him is the person he is due to his life experience and his wife is a large part of that.
Someone once said to me that when someone has had a successful marriage and been widowed it is a a very special thing that they think they may have a chance of finding that again with you

I'm in a very happy relationship after being widowed 9 years ago. I talk about my husband, his picture is up in the house he was an amazing husband but it hasn't stopped me and my dp (now fiancé) having a wonderful , close, very committed and happy relationship.