If someone said this to you?

[yellowskys]

Going through a difficult time in my personal life at the moment, and one particular friend who is being supportive in general referred to me as her 'project'.
What would you think of this comment if it was said to you?
It's made me feel a bit belittled, Aibu?

How good a friend is she? I think its quite cute, she obviously wants to see you happy and in a better place, and she wants to help you do that. But only you know the contest behind it.

I wouldn't feel belittled, I would feel happy.

Sorry but not sure I would like it to be honest. It may have just been an innocent (but insensitive comment). Its quite patronising to be honest. Helping a friend is not a 'project', its just something that you do!!
Not sure what you've been going through exactly so its hard to judge how insensitive this is. I wouldn't be too happy though.

It was a degrading, objectifying comment.
If she is the sort of person that often puts out little digs for an ego boost, then It suggests that she is condescending to grace you with her time, (poor you), and perhaps on some level this entertains her.

If she is normally nice, and she is spending alot of her time supporting you, she may have come to a threshold of starting to feel that she needs to tend to other things that have been thus set aside?

It is one of those tricky comments said in a "ha ha" sort of way that does indeed have an underlying hint attached, imho. Perhaps rely a little less on her.

Without knowing your circumstances this may be just a guess, but perhaps you might go to your GP to get a referral for counselling?
I hope things brighten up for you soon.

It's likely she's just being supportive. The use of a questionable word should not in and of itself negate her actions, the concern she has shown you as a friend and the support she offers.

Forget about it. We all use a word from time to time that can be taken out of context.

I had a similar situation so I can see how it could be hurtful.

However that doesn't change how supportive she has been. I'd still be grateful but I would try to lean on her less and rebalance the friendship.

I think it's patronising and it belittles you.

I personally would distance myself from her somewhat and be less available to her and her digs.

YANBU.