Moving in with someone

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I've only had 2 long term relationships in my life (covering 20 years) the odd short term thing that didn't work out after that. I was giving up but met someone a few weeks ago who seems amazing.
He seems so on my wavelength, in a nutshell we connect on all fronts and are both very happy.
He has his own house and I rent, we are about half an hour apart and for work reasons I cannot move his way. I saw him last night and he said he'd love to be with me more and eventually move in..I was very pleased. We spend equal times in and out and have covered lots of mundane things too, some stressful that have been fine. I guess my worry is it all changing once this happens? Jobs you just do become something you should probably share and as much as we're all loved up I worry about things changing.
So! When did you decide to move I with your now dp and how was it?

I wouldn't be even thinking about moving in with someone after a few weeks. Slow down!

I'd run from anyone who said they wanted to move in after a few weeks. Are you sure he owns his own home? Why the desperation to move in with a stranger? Be very wary op. What do your friends and family think of him?

OP states he talked about eventually moving in, not let's move in right now...

OP, I'd probably been with my partner about three months before discussing the possibility of moving in. We actually moved in after nine months together and PLENTY of people said we were moving too quickly/it wouldn't work/it would ruin our relationship.

Three years on, we're still together and have a daughter. Do what feels right to both of you. It is absolutely none of anyone else's business - although plenty of people will feel that it is.

It's what works for you. I have previously waited 2 years and 6 months! Neither of those worked out long term so I don't think length of relationship has too much bearing.

Thanks for the replies.
Yes I do know he def owns his own house.
Caenae (not sure spelt right!) as mentioned yes I did say eventually!
My 2 ex's I moved in with after 1.5yrs (together 12) and 6months (together 7) so I dont think there's a right or wrong time..I'm just scared I guess of things going wrong, despite us working well together when the normal 'stuff' kicked in.

Somewhat controversial but unofficially DP and I lived together within weeks. We met online but ironically had lots of mutual friends...in fact he'd played rugby with my housemate for many years. We clicked from day 1 and attempts to take things slowly and spend time apart always resulted in us staying up til silly o'clock chatting and being stupidly tired for work the next day. I remember us sitting down one day and kinda saying "screw it, lets just go with it and see what happens". That Christmas he officially asked me to move in with him by giving me my own key...up until that point I'd always maintained I was happy to just get the spare out of the key safe if I was home before him. Even after I'd officially moved in I continued renting my apartment for about 9 months in case something went horribly wrong...in fact DP always jokes about how reluctant I was to give up my bolt hole...but in reality whilst I was smitten I didn't want to put too much pressure on our relationship.

We're both pretty independent and partake in sports that take up a fair amount of time, so it never felt like we were in each others pockets, for us we just liked coming home to each other. In the early days we both kept waiting for "the catch" as things were just so easy but many years later and it's still never happened.

Admittedly we did keep the situation on the down low from friends in the beginning as we both knew how batshit the situation was and that people would think we were rushing into things, but for us it's just worked.

I moved in after only 2 months. I took a job i did not really want due to just needing a job in a new place. I could not carry on with this as it was making me ill. I felt awful as it meant i would not be able to financially contribute until a new job was found and i offered to leave. My partner was amazing and said he would support until a job was found which it has been. I guess what i am trying to say is if you love someone it can be good to take a chance. I have never taken such a risk in all of my life and have stayed in bad relationships because i played it safe and i am glad i took this risk.I did weigh up my options and because i love him so very much i took the risk!

DH and I moved in together after six weeks. We knew each other was 'the one' very early on and we're open about our feelings. Four years later and we're married, buying a house and expecting a baby. Neither of us has ever had a single doubt, despite some difficult circumstances and life experiences.

I always say my husband never really left after the first date 😂
He used to live with his parents and I rented a flat (that was also much closer to work), we officially moved in together after our first holiday about 6 months in xx

My husband also never left after the first date! 14 years later and we are still happy.

Dh and I moved in together after about 10 months. That was 14 years ago....we both just knew it would work out. We also knew we'd have children and be together within days of meeting.

Ah lovely stories! Hope it all goes well I really like him!!

Such a relief to read success stories on here. Meant to be moving in with dp in August when we'll have been together 6 months and I was having a wobble worrying people would think we're crazy. It's nice to see it can work

I moved in with DH after 4 months and some people thought we were crazy. We'd practically been inseparable since we met though so it felt completely natural.

Writer this is how we feel..well I know I do and he says the same!!
We spend 1-2 nights a week together and every weekend and i hate him going home or me leaving his. It is still to soon but I'm hoping things will continue and we can progress to it.

We'd been at a fireworks do at one of his friend's house and she made a joke about how we may as well live together as we were together so often and we all just laughed it off.

But then a few hours later, whilst outside in front of the bonfire and watching the fireworks he turned to me and said, "Why don't you move in with me?" I thought he was joking and laughed him off again but then he said he meant it.....and the rest is history. It was really romantic.

Even though I was 27 I was still petrified about telling my family as I knew they'd all think we were rushing in to it

Nice to hear writer! Sounds lovely!

Well he was over for dinner last night and sat talking about a change of job (still on the same roll but different department) he mentioned there was one going near me (testing the water?!) I said to look into it.
I'd had a bad day (my car broke down and it doesn't look good) and he's so supportive..he said what would help and we discussed..he said living together would ease the pressure on me in general.
I totally and utterly have fallen for this man, he's amazing in every way..I'd actually move In with him tomorrow (and I'm certainly not naive) but worry things will change.
Still early days but I'm glad he's keen..I just don't want to come across as it's something I dont want but everything needs to be done by him.