Firstly, apologies in advance if this is long and rambly.
I split with my fiance last summer after 8 years together. It was not an amicable break-up. Things had not been "ok" for a while but I thought it was just a phase and we would work it out, we'd got stuck in a bit of a rut.
He had became aggressive, lied a lot, quite controlling and drank heavily. Anytime I'd try to discuss our issues, he'd just brush them under the carpet and want to go out. It wasn't a healthy relationship.
During the course of the couple of months when things weren't ok, he admitted that he had cheated, albeit it was a while ago. I tried to forgive and move on but I just couldn't, the trust was gone.
We had our wedding booked for last summer also, that was supposed to be in the August. In the June, he moved back to his family home some 70-80 miles away. This was it for him, he claimed he was staying there and giving up work, and that I had forced him to move to my hometown in the first place. He didnt speak to me for several weeks, I took the decision to cancel the wedding in light of everything that happened I knew it wasn't right to go through with it. His family & my family were amazing at this point, tying up all the loose ends. He was livid with me for cancelling the wedding, stating that we could just "see how it goes on the day".
August/September - we met up twice to try & discuss things & the way forward. During this time, he showed a blatant refusal to discuss anything and seemingly, just wanted things to go back to the way they were. This was not ok and I took the decision to end the relationship, he didn't seem overly upset or surprised and just said "ok, I'll give you space"
Anyway...one year on..it appears he's back up in my hometown again, back at work, back in the house we had rented (I'm living with my parents). I see him several times a week on the bus (we're on the same route), around town and I purposely avoid coffee shops, bars, shops where I think I might run into him.
We've had no speaking contact and we have defriended and blocked on facebook etc.
But I still feel really restricted as to where I can go, what I can do, how to move on when I see him ALL the time. I know he has as much right to be here as I do. While I know, he probably wouldn't speak to me/approach me(which is fine), I still fear that he would.
How do I deal with this? How do I move on?
(Reading over this post, it makes me sound quite young I think...I'm 29 for reference).