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Bit sick to find out Ex is living with a millionaire.

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donners312 · 27/06/2017 19:19

Long story short my Ex left me and the children by emptying the bank accounts and has refused to work so that he doesn't pay any maintenance (for 2 years now).

This weekend found out he is living with a woman who is a millionaire (or her ex husband is) and they both don't work - by rights he should be living in a bloody bedsit and suffering,

Me and the children are - why is there no justice?

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PyongyangKipperbang · 27/06/2017 19:21

There will be.

Once her money runs out or she realises that she is being taken for a mug the gravy train will end.

Sometimes the universe makes us wait but the justice does happen eventually.

noodleaddict · 27/06/2017 19:49

He'll get his comeuppance, some how, some way.

As for you, you're far better without this total loser in your life.

Hope things get better for you soon

TheNaze73 · 27/06/2017 21:18

Fair play to him.

Concentrate on yourself & how your life is better without him

jeaux90 · 27/06/2017 21:45

Her ex is a millionaire. In what? Property? Assets? Cash in the bank? Or is this a spurious claim by a friend or him. And really who cares. Karma doesn't exist if it did my ex would have paid maintenance in 6 years or been exported to mars or at least had a serious bout of piles or gout but he hasnt.
My revenge is building a life for my dd and I . You seriously need to focus on your life.

OnionKnight · 27/06/2017 21:47

Sometimes the universe makes us wait but the justice does happen eventually.

No it doesn't.

Just move on and be happy, that's the best justice.

springydaffs · 27/06/2017 23:22

I have to agree that, ime, justice gets served up at some point. I've seen it too many times - usually when I don't care by then.

Takes its time though - usually. There's a thread on here (mystery earrings) where justice is being served with astonishing alacrity. It does happen.

As for the loser. Really who gives a fuck. She can put up with the skank now - good luck to her, she's going to need it. I mean, YUK.

wobblywonderwoman · 27/06/2017 23:23

Happiness is the best revenge

PyongyangKipperbang · 28/06/2017 01:55

Happiness is the best revenge

Sorry but I really hate that phrase, its so trite.

The truth is that the best revenge is wrecking the life of the person who wrecked yours, so that they get to experience what they put you through but 99.9% of the time that simply isnt possible so we dust ourselves down and try again.

Taking the experiences we have had and using them to make sure that we never become as negative and horrible as the person who hurt us is the best we can do, while secretly hoping that they get their comeuppance one day. And users usually do eventually, even if it is in the form of never ever truly experiencing love or taking satisfaction from the simple things in life because they are always chasing the next buck and the next sucker. Its must be a very stressful way to live, so maybe that is their justice.

Dibbles1967 · 28/06/2017 02:02

My ex went through a series of wealthy divorcees, (Cougar Dating website!) living the high life whilst myself & the 5 children struggled & he didn't pay a penny.

He's now living in a council flat with his two dogs.

I know it hurts now & I'm so sorry for your predicament but things will get better for you all & he'll get his comeuppance soon enough.

sofato5miles · 28/06/2017 02:04

What a load of bull. The nastiest people I know still seem to thrive.

OP, that would annoy me immensely. You are doing the job of both parents be VERY proud of yourselfand make a voodoo of him.

anxiousnow · 28/06/2017 02:06

Hopefully someone with some knowledge can answer but when does your ex's millionaires assets get taken into consideration for csa payments?
That really is sickening OP. I don't believe in karma on earth so try not to fixate in waiting for it. I do believe that revenge takes a piece of you with it. Just try to focus on what low life walks out in his family and leaves them to suffer financially and emotionally while he lives it up. A very nasty one that you are well rid of. The millionaires money might smooth over a hole in him for a while but not for ever. You have your babies. Try and make a happy life for you and your DCs
It does suck though

BigYellowJumper · 28/06/2017 02:20

There is no justice, unfortunately. It's better to not even think about it, or you'll just end up bitter.

I'd rather be skint than a twat.

TheDogAteMyGoatskinVellum · 28/06/2017 10:08

You wouldn't be any better off if he weren't living with a millionaire, would you? I can see why it's annoying but fuck him, he's made his choice. Whaddeva.

memyselfandisolodjsjajaj · 28/06/2017 10:10

Karma's a bitch, my dear. He'll get what he deserves: sooner or later but he will. That's what happens with money that you didn't work for! Stay strong, OP, and don't poison your mind anymore!

HoHoHoHo · 30/06/2017 21:16

If i was a millionaire i wouldn't feel that it was my responsibility to give money to the ex of my ex ...

springydaffs · 30/06/2017 21:55

Don't get that HoHo. Fick innit...

user1490465531 · 01/07/2017 11:50

I think the bastards do get payback eventually.
it took a long time but my ex did.

wherearemymarbles · 01/07/2017 14:52

I am sure if she is used to a certain standard of living and a high achieving ex she will soon tire of a cocklodging tosspot.

Women, on the whole, tend to be more ruthless about these kind of things, especially where it effects their children.

SandyY2K · 01/07/2017 16:41

What a useless father.
It's her money thought, not his. Hopefully she will discover what he's like on her own.

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donners312 · 01/07/2017 18:09

when i think of karma i just think i must have been the one in the wrong, my life is such incredibly hard work and totally shit!

WRT to CM payments i do think that if women want to take on the responsibility of a cocklodger then she should be responsible for the payments actually, after all he could go and get a job and make them himself and if she is his source of income then payments should be based on that?

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