Right to dump or over reacting?

[MADEinLONDON]

Tell me I was right to dump?!

Seeing a guy for a few months, just casually. Then he sends me this charming little meme (that will hopefully be posted below).

My younger two kids dad is brown skinned (though they are pale like me). He knows this. I can have a laugh and a joke about anything really and have gallows humour but such a grim, racist joke (particularly after recent events in this country) has turned my stomach as well as making me feel like he's having a personal dig at my kids and their dad. Showing his superiority?

Anyway, he's history (and currently playing the innocent victim) but just feel a bit sick that I've slept with someone who actually thinks like this. Grim.

Did I do the right thing?

Eurgh the man's gross you've dodged a missile

Ugh. What a pig.

You so got it right.

This is actually so sad in 2017. Bloody twat. Get rid.

What a horrible, racist, thing to send. Some people are just twats. You dodged a bullet.

Yep....vile arsehole

Thanks all. It was an instant dumping offence as soon as I read it. I just sort of felt a bit ugh. It was literally like I was given the key to his mind and saw the racism (and from subsequent messages, probably misogyny as well) and it's just made me want to run a mile. Not a very nice man as it turns out!

I'm not too upset as it was never ever going to be love (we'd agreed something casual) and as I said before, I was starting to have some serious misgivings. For example he was on WhatsApp sending absolute crap ALL BLOODY DAY! I don't mind catching up here and there but for something casual it was too much. I wonder when he actually found time to do any work!

Our politics were also radically different. Wouldn't normally bother me (and each to their own) but he had a bit of a pop at me in the lead up to the election when he found out I was voting labour, like he was trying to convince me to vote Tory because he thought JC was "useless". Now that's his opinion but as a grown woman I respectfully disagree with him and I'm not sure why he thought he had the right to try and push me to do it his way?! (I NEVER would have)! Most Tory voters are normal decent human beings and I assumed he voted for them because he is a business owner. But it looks like he was one of a small minority that possibly use their right wing leanings to push a racist agenda. I never would have guessed he was a bigot until he slipped up though. What a shame.

He's now blocked as he started throwing out insults. Apparently I'm over sensitive. I told him I didn't share or appreciate his viewpoint and that it felt like a slur on my kids and their dad (who is twice the guy this dickwad is)! He just carried on saying "I'm not really racist! I have black guys working for me!
() you know I was only mucking about!" He was sounding more and more like a racist old fart with every text. I asked him to leave me be now and all the best for the future but that we were very different people and he should maybe think hard about some of the views he finds acceptable. And he went "we'll go fuck yourself then you were only good for a shag anyway!" BLOCKED!

Wish I could say the same about you mate but you were a bit quick! 😂

Good riddance to bad, bad rubbish.

Jesus.

One of the best (and possibly the only good) thing(s) about men like this, is that as soon as we dump them, they prove to us how right we were to do so.

Any doubts we might have had that we were being unfair, or over-reacting, vanish immediately as they pour forth their mindless bile and show us who they really are.

Bullet skilfully dodged.

Wish I could say the same about you mate but you were a bit quick! 😂

Love it 😂😂😂 I hope you sent that back before you blocked the twat

I have black guys working for me!

Jesus! He just gets worse and worse.. your well rid!

Doesn't matter whether you have mixed race kids or not, a racist is a racist, and that "joke" was particularly vile.
Like AskBasil says, he reveals himself once you reject him. He doesn't have to put on a face for your benefit.
I would have put money on his "only good for a shag" response

I'm not really racist! I have black guys working for me!
Fucking hell, who were you dating? Bernard Manning? Not to mention the totally mature go fuck yourself then you were only good for a shag anyway! Definitely well rid

He's obviously completely oblivious to your feelings or, indeed to what kind of a person you are, so regard this as a lucky escape.

Yes, I'd be halfway inclined to let him hang himself by his own petard as well.

What an absolutel twat. First for the "joke" and secondly for the sexual insult because you dumped him. Ugh!

Urgh I have a friend who sends this type of shit online.

It's tiresome.

I don't blame you as he's obviously a nasty bigot though don't expect he had your children in mind.

Besides you can dump someone for wearing Spongebob boxers if you like -