AM I BEING PARANOID?!

[wobolobo]

Sorry long one... So me and my wife have been together 2 years, we have one DD and another one on the way (14 weeks). Lately she has been super distant, causing fights for no reason, and very very active on her phone. More then usual. Here are some examples, I asked to use her phone quickly as mine had died and she agreed she then proceeded to snatch it out my hand. Her reasoning is she likes her privacy and may have left a personal text message open. She will frequently home button out of a convo if I enter the room or sit near her. She takes her phone everywhere all the time, she tell me she is too tired to text (if I throw her an odd one whilst I'm at work) yet will sit on Facebook messanger or whatsapp all day. I've never been the type to be insecure and up until this point not had any worries what so ever. I just have a real deep gut feeling that something is off but I'm not sure if it's just me. Any opinions would be greatly appreciated

Her behaviour does seem a little suspect. When I was pregnant, I didn't behave normally, well so I was told. Was she like this on her first pregnancy? Are there any other changes in her behaviour?

Hmmm this does sound quite suspicious but to echo Materdolores, I think some behaviour changes during pregnancy are quite normal. My husband will tell you that during my second pregnancy I was a raging psycho bitch born from hell. Does she have any new friends or colleagues that she has mentioned? Also, is she on any online pregnancy forums? I knoe that during birth my pregnancies I was a member of Facebook groups with other women due the same month as me so spent a bit more time on my phone chatting etc. Don't panic just yet!

My missus is on her phone constantly and weirdly enough I've had the same phone snatch scenario. She's also pregnant 19 weeks though. I'd say she's probably texting her girl mates. I have to admit I felt a bit suspicious too at the phone snatching but come to the conclusion people will do what people do whether you worry about it or not. Got to trust your partner for it to work and there's nothing more unattractive then an insecure person. Trust her, think of the best possible reason she's like it and enjoy life. Plus pregnant woman are literally crazy so don't try and work it out you never will 😂

Oh and the texting bit is a bit rude on her behalf. If she doesn't bother replying to you for excuse but sits chatting to other people do the same, sounds petty but don't bother putting in effort that isn't reciprocated its wasted and comes off desperate mate, my two cents

Good to hear a guys opinion too! Her behaviour hasn't changed much except the normal pregnancy emotions and being distant a bit which I know is normal too. There's been no late night outings or "new friends" she's meeting or anything. We both lead busy lives and I don't think she'd have the time

Actually I'm not sure about this. In theory I wouldn't have any problem with my DP accessing my phone, I've nothing whatsoever to hide. BUT I wouldn't want him reading my private conversations with my friends. Again nothing whatsoever to hide but I'd just find it a bit intrusive. Although to be fair my phone is rarely out when I'm with him. If it is it's usually sat next to his

Trust your instincts

If this was a woman OP, we'd all be shouting "affair". Trust your instincts. She may of course be texting girlfriends and moaning about you ( I didn't like my DP when I was pregnant - not really his fault).

Sounds like either an EA or she's slating you to her friends, neither of which is OK. Can you get into her phone and check, it's the advice commonly given to women whose DP acts like that with his phone.

Yep, id question whether
(A) she's pissed off with you and texting mates about it (in which case ask her if she's upset)
(B) worries about something baby related and googling (ask her if she's upset)

could well be thinking you have done something behind her back so why you feel distance between you.

could be checking facebook to see who is posting and liking your posts. could be she is on wattsapp talking to friends like you are on here asking people.

could be her self esteem is down and checking out other peoples perfect lives on facebook which would make her worse as how posts bad things on facebook you normally only see there good sides. or she is flirting with people to make her self feel better.

Remember some game on the phone are linked to facebook so wile you play them on your phone it may look she is online on messenger.

Don't snoop like user above me suggested that is just as bad and untrustworthy as someone doing the dirt. Pregnancy makes woman a bit odd and distant don't read too much into it. If she is doing dirt whilst pregnant then she's bottom of the barrel and you're better off without her. Just enjoy life and see what comes of it I wouldn't worry or be paranoid mate. If it comes out she isn't faithful then move on plenty more woman out there that will give you loyalty no matter your age 👍🏻