If it's hard work, it's not worth it..... right???

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I feel very pathetic writing a thread about this but I hate ending relationships and always regret it immediately afterwards

Which is what's happening now...

I've only been seeing the guy 5 months. Initially all was good but it's been very up and down and a lot has happened in such a short space of time.
I'm guilty of over investing (bad habit of mine)

We do get on well, have great sex, fancy the pants off each other and share similar interests but something appears to be missing. We've already had a few little arguments (eek!) and have already had a conversation about whether we think it's going to work or not

So why do I feel so gutted it's over and like I'm going to regret this ?? I feel like an 18 year old again!

Someone hopefully can give me a massive mumsnet slap!

Pookie - he isn't an irritating drunk. In fact our problem is that he rarely gets drunk but when I do, I am also a pain in the arse! Or so it seems. So maybe not drinking together would solve this .... it's probably too late for all this now anyway as we've already gone our seperate ways but maybe it'll teach me for future relationships

OP I'm 8 months in and having doubts. My DP is mainly wonderful, kind etc. But just over the past couple of weeks he's let me down over a couple of issues and all of a sudden I'm doubting the relationship entirely. I similarly don't know if I'm over reacting. The thought of not seeing him again takes my breath away with pain but I'm not sure. My issue is maybe other way round, we are still at the once or twice a week stage whereas I'd like to move things on a bit, I'm not sure it's what he wants. I don't know what to do at all. I'm going to see how things go I think for a bit longer but perhaps with wider open eyes and a bit more communication when he does let me down

Aminuts - yours sounds salvageable!
Have a good conversation with him x

Yes OP I'm hoping so. I'm sorry you're going through this x

This happened to me as we moved in together after two months as it would have been long distance. Then we had that same conversation at around a year and we realised it was because we skipped the dating part! So we went out on dates! And stopped taking things so seriously. It's now three years on and we are in love and have just welcomed our first child

Mintich that's such a lovely story. I wish he could see that it could work but I think it's too late