What do you do with your DH to feel close/enjoy time as a couple?

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We have a limited budget but now our DS is older and finally sleeping through(!) we want to reconnect as a couple but I've forgotten what we used to do!

We've fallen into an evening rut of me watching Netflix/reading/knitting while he games, next to each other and touching but I'd rather actually do something together more often! Last night we played a new video game together which I really enjoyed, so may look for more of those. Every now and then we find a TV series we both like or will watch a movie together but I'm trying to think of other activities! I like to lie entwined and read together but he always falls asleep

We do go out to the cinema and a meal about once a month but can't afford to do it more often even if there were more things to watch!

So, what do you do with your other half?? I'd love to know!

Open a bottle of wine and play cards, we've only just started doing it but it's a good giggle. (We have 2 DCs so going out is difficult)

We also have one day where we have no electronics for the evening, no phones or laptops.

We do the box set thing too, plus I get him to massage my feet and back

no ideas here but placemarking as in the very same situation, minus the sleeping through haha

The idea of a glass of wine and a pack of cards is brilliant, but to add a bit more spice into the mix, play strip poker or something else, all good fun.

We got into a really bad habit of getting home from work, eating dinner, sticking Netflix on, going to bed and watching another episode on the laptop and falling asleep.

Now I have reverted to TV dinners being allowed only very occasionally, sitting down at the table to eat together so we can actually talk, and trying to 'do' stuff together on the weekends, like tackling a bit of the garden or cooking.

However; our sex life is pretty crap, once a week at most so I'm prob not a good person to comment!

We go out to dinner once a month & out for the night once a month while mil babysits.

Rest of the time we

Cook together once the dc are in bed, we both enjoy cooking and it gives us a chance to talk

Film, chocolates & a bottle of wine

We have 2 nights a week when neither of us use a phone/laptop etc in the evening so we can talk

Sex, always sex!

Jigsaws, cards and board games (many can be played/adapted for 2 players) are great. Two player electronic games - we love Little Big Planet, and the Lego games for that.

Movie/box set with no electronics.

I might suggest trying an electronic free evening a week, great idea.

We have date night once a week and take turns to plan something to do, so one week mine the next his.
If we have a baby sitter, we'll do meals out, cinema, concerts, theatre.
If we stay in we've done, making pizzas, water fight when it was hot, movie nights, picnics in the room/garden, board games (twisters fun!)

We don't stress over it or take it too seriously.
For us it's about one night a week when we are both home and once dd is in bed the focus is on us! We agree ours doesn't center around sex, but that's because we really don't struggle finding time for that. Although I don't think any couple playing twister alone can stop it turning to sex!

I actually think that you both spending time apart, with your friends would help

TheNaze we're apart 3-4 evenings a week at the moment due to mad schedules! Would be nice to reconnect when we're together rather than doing separate things all the time

Those of you who do board games, any recommendations for things that are fun with just 2 players?

Shag.

Ride mountain bikes.

Carcassonne.

Games:
Backgammon
Heroic realms
Carcassone Castle
Patchwork
Hive
Magic: The Gathering

We go clubbing every couple of months, no drugs, just alcohol and good music, dancing together is very intimate.

We cook, we drink wine, we have regular nights away in nice hotels, holidays.

We cycle together to a pub that has no wifi.

First 5 hours we've spent without internet access in ages!

We go out for walks, even in the rain. Have picnics down the beach when taking the dog swimming. Anything so we are alone together.

Have a bath together.
Play cards.
Give each other a back rub.
Walk the dogs together.
Go out for dinner, just the two of us.
Have a night out on the piss - rare, but we always have a brilliant time and end up laughing our heads off all night whenever we do.

Hmm. We've been having a bit of a tough time lately ( in life, not our relationship) and this thread is making me think. We need to invest in ourselves a bit more, time-wise.

@MumBod How do you both fit in the bath?! I'd end up with a foot up the vag by the lanky DP.

Connect 4, it normally results in sex too.

Box sets are good too, we just watched the Crown, really enjoyed Breaking Bad and have just started House of Cards

Games:
Scrabble (we sometimes do rude words!)
Monopoly
Cluedo
Jenga
Twister
Pictonary
And we play a few PlayStation games too and guitar hero!

Reow we manage

Watching with interest. Ours are older now and we can leave them alone and they kind of love it (half love it) when we go out. Very hrayito have a dd who likes the responsibility.
Otherwise we kick them off to bed and have a card game and some wine and see where things end up.