Just turned twenty one, I'm 27 in nov

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I've been in a relationship with a younger man recentley. Well, I say relationship he would get cold feet whenever anyone would call me his girlfriend, but would happily label it friends with benefits. It was definetley a relationship even if he was scared to admit it.

I've recently met a man online , not on a dating site, and we've hit it off. We both would like to meet up but I'm worried all 21 year olds are the same . Anyone been in a successful relationship with this sort of age gap. Don't want to waste my time

Every man and woman is different.

Some will work with 15 years between them some won't work full stop.

Just see what happens. The previous one was a commitmaphobe - if you want something serious then avoid those who dither on what your relationship is.

Think I'm just afraid of wasting my time again.... I'm kind of new to this dating thing

Not necessarily - I'm nearly 6 years older than my DH and we met about the same ages - he was 22 and I was 27.

BUT he wasn't a wanker or a messer-arounder. It's pretty clear early on if someone is. The trick is to just not make excuses for people - if it quacks like a duck and messes you around like a twat, then adios!

Go for it. But put up with nothing, and move on if it's even slightly clear that he's not on the same page as you.

I am 12 years older than my husband and we met when he was 23. We've been together 8 years and married for 6. He is the most wonderful man I've ever known and has been from the beginning. He's mature beyond his years, loving, and supports me 100%. Don't judge someone by their age. Judge them on their character and behaviour. Let's be real, there are loads of 45 year old men who are nothing more than pathetic manbabies.

My OH is six years older than me - 33 and 39 (I'm the male).

I would caution you however that age gap aside, 21 year old lads are not always emotionally at the same place you might wish a long term partner to be. Certainly I wasn't. While there are exceptions, I would proceed with immense caution.

I'm 10 years older than my now dh. He was 21 when we met up and it took a bit of getting used to but he keeps me young and can keep up with me ;)

Met DH when I was 21 and he was nearly 27. We've done fine.

My now husband was 21 when I met him ...i was 31 with 2 kids . We are about to celebrate 19 years together . He's my best friend and we love each other very much . Just be careful as you should with any online dating ...Good luck

Why would you want to date a kid? Men take a lot longer to mature than women. Most 21 year old males are still boys mentally. Lot's of young people (both sexes) see older ones as someone who can teach them how to be good at sex because they have more experience. Dating sites are full of boys looking for 'teachers'...

They're not looking at an older person as a suitable mate because often they're not socially compatible. Would you really feel comfortable sitting in a pub with a group of his 18-23 year old friends? Would that not make you feel old?

Find someone at the same stage in life as you, someone who's proud to be with you and you wants a relationship with you. Don't sell yourself short.

When I was 21, am older woman would be all about the sex.

Thanks for all your replies.
I didn't meet him on a dating site so I don't think he was looking for anything haha.

Also all (literally all) of my friends are at between the ages of 20 and 22! I have people I assosiate with of all ages, but my actual friends are much younger.

I do worry but I suppose your right and it's just take things as they come x

I hope it wouldn't make me feel old at 26 too haha.

I think some of the responses are from people who are forgetting how young you are! I don't see the issue. But then I'm 37 and my boyfriend is 27