A tiny rant ..

[Heatherjayne1972]

I have an admirer! But i don't feel the same way so in any situation where he's around I don't start a conversation. I ignore his texts am careful never to be alone with him but on a few occasions recently he has sought me out and sat next to me. I'm polite but distant if he speaks
He's never asked me to go out anywhere with him and I'd say no if he did
But. Some senior people ( men) in this organisation have decided this is all my fault and I'm 'leading him on'
Bah why do people do this. Why am I supposed to control someone else's feelings
And. Rant over

How have they noticed, why do they care and how do they imagine you're leading them on?

Can you tell him to back off?
Tell him what you've said here.
That he's making your life difficult and people assume it's your fault and it's not.
So he needs to stop this or you will be reporting him?

Yeah I'm going to speak to him about this
I'm just a bit miffed that I'm supposed to manage/control someone else feelings and somehow this is my problem when all these 'concerned' people could easily talk to him about it
Leave me out of it