Help me with this situation please

[Poisongirl81]

My OH is generally ok he has had shouty outbursts but normally with alcohol. We are on holiday he is drinking every night and last night he started screaming at me woke up dd. We were both crying asking him to stop but he wouldn't.. .just kept going on and on about poor him I'm not paying him enough attentìon etc and screaming at me.

I don't know what to do!

How long do you have left of your holiday? Not long I hope.
I think it's easier done than said laying down the law with someone like this, especially in this situation and being scared, with children in toe.
If things get really bad then use the hotel staff, let them help you feel safe if he goes nuts again. He has to take responsibility for his behaviour, not you.
As soon as you get back, get rid. If this is how he acts when you're on holiday then got knows how things will escalate when you're at home.
Please, keep safe.

I had a word he said he would lay off the whisky and shots but not the beer 😮 he's being nice today but I'm just scared for later.

I have nearly another week here.

Am In a similar situation I get subjected to this BS every week .am studying etc once I can afford it will LTB trust me drunks never change they just get worse

Hi I'm ok thanks was calmer last night.....

How are things now?
We were in Australia when it happened to me. I took some money from his wallet and hired a car to get away with the DC for a few days thinking time.
It's horrible. He was full of remorse etc etc but he'd been abusive at home before that, so it was the death knell for me.
He was usually only horrid when drunk also, but it's no excuse.
Whenever you wobble, or feel like he's a nice man, remember how upset/ scared you and DD were when he was hurling abuse at you. No one should have to put up with that. C

He sounds like a waste of space.

Your job is to protect your DC from this kind of shite, not expose them to it.

I hope you have a good hard look at him and his behaviour when you get home and that the rest of the holiday isn't ruined by him

Hope you're doing ok now OP. I agree with pp that you should finish this relationship. You and your kids deserve better.

Just because he's calmed down and is being nice don't forget how much he upset you and your daughter. This man's behaviour is atrocious and worrying it will be harming your daughter. Get away from him as soon as feasible xxxx.

Hmm.
I'm not excusing his behaviour, because it's really bad, but I think I would give him a chance to stop drinking or he's out.

I had a friend when I was young who was generally a lovely bloke except when he drank beer, when he turned into an aggressive wanker. Honestly it was like Jekyll and Hyde, and you can say all you like that it was just the alcohol releasing his inhibitions, but I won't agree with you - especially because he gave up drinking entirely as he hated who he became when he'd had a few drinks. He was only 19 when he made that decision - a very mature one, I think.

Anyway - that would be my reaction - give up the drink because you turn into a fucking arsehole when drunk, and if you won't give it up, then you're out.