In a relationship and love each other but wonder if your right for each other

[NeverEnoughSleep1]

Just wondering if anyone has experiences of being in a relationship when you both love each other but have a few small issues but make you question if your right for each other as a whole, I worry that me and DP might not be the best for each other

It would really help if you could prove examples of what you're concerned about.

Sorry I should of gave some examples:

He is a lot more needy then me likes a lot of reassurance about my feelings and that i still want a future with him

We both have DC from previous relationships he doesn't want any more but I always have at first he said he did now he said he 100% doesn't but I know I do

We have different standards of living and his are a lot less then mine that aren't particularly high because he isn't bothered he doesn't IMO pull his weight

There's just some examples

I feel like this sometimes. Mostly because I am quite positive & DP is quite negative - it seems to make us clash on some things.

However, the wanting more kids vs. not wanting them is not negotiable, I think. You can't compromise on that. Personality quirks & attitudes are different.

I can honestly say I've never seriously questioned our relationship. We have our differences - he is very mild-mannered, I am quite up-tight but we have the same goals, same standards of tidiness (that helps A LOT I think) and always support each other.

We also come from different backgrounds, I'm white British, he's Korean, so we have some cultural differences that are tricky sometimes, but overall, I think we have more benefits that problems in that area. I know a lot of women married to Korean guys who are struggling because of the differences.

Generally never really questioned our relationship because it feels right.

If he is too lazy to keep the house nice, I think that is a massive issue. I doubt I could get over that. I saw my mum get ground down by running around after three kids and a lazy arsed husband and I knew I could never do that.

It's hard because the little things add up to be big things that feel like a strain in our relationship.

He has so many great qualities and he does support me, is always there for me and will back me but sometimes I just feel like we both need slightly different things that we can't get from each other even though the love is there

I don't think they are small things. You are too different from each other.

How long have you been together?

Yeah this is me. I love him but we have startlingly different world views, very different senses of humour, very little in common, the way we like to spend out free time is very different and I very much doubt we have much of a future. But I can't give him up right now.

I do agree though that the kids thing is a dealbreaker, if it's something you really want and he doesn't I'm not sure how you can even get past that, it's not really something you can compromise on and waiting for him to change his mind is never a good plan.