Spending too much time together?

[Misty9]

I realise this issue is usually presented as the opposite - the partner not wanting to spend time with the other - but I wondered if anyone else feels this way? Dh works from home and I'm currently between jobs, so we see a LOT of each other. He pops in for lunch and breaks (home office), and every evening we spend in the same room and every weekend. Basically never any time apart!

Dh is constantly offering me time to myself but as I have two days whilst dd is at nursery (and ds at school) that's definitely not the problem. Today I took the kids out and left him at home, despite his protests, and we had a lovely time. Dh is very hands on and loves playing with the kids, whereas I'm more a five minute interaction and then do some chores. So it's easy for me to step back when dh is around. I probably need to get some hobbies but tbh am knackered in the evenings and enjoys slobbing about on the sofa.

Anyone else see too much of their partner?!

No but, I totally get your point. Being suffocated in a relationship is stifling. Nothing grows in shadows

Yep. Dh unemployed and miserable about it. He's gone from 80 hour weeks to zero. He's maitre ring the hell out of me when I'm not at work. I've not had a day off for months as we'd have to spend if together. The weekends can be v long.

He doesn't have a hobby, I do and I need my own space.

It's been a long six months...

That's the funny thing thenaze - dh has grown, enormously so, and is in a great place he says. I on the other hand do feel like I'm stagnating... we're bickering and I feel we don't have much in common any more, but I wonder if it's because we spend too much time together.

Send him out with the kids for a day. Unless you want time with the kids on your own and thats quite selfish. Instead of slobbing on the sofa, why not read in the bath or relax in bed? You dont need to be in the same room. If he follows, just do the bath one.

Oh gawd yes, I sympathise OP. DH and I both used to work different hours so when I was at home, he was out.

It's all changed recently and I never get a minute's peace in the house to myself any more... drives me potty.

We work together, mostly from home so spend a huge amount of time together, but if we disinterested make a conscious decision to do things separately, we'd go mad

You most definitely need to get out of the house. I meet several friends in the week for lunch and I go to the gym.
Dh works on London 1 or 2 days a week and he has a hobby which means he's away for the weekend probably once a month.
We never eat together during the day, only at dinner.

I think we get the balance right and we enjoy life together.

Op start planning to do things outside the house asap! Could you meet friends, do some voluntary work, join clubs etc during the day?

Excuse typos.

Both DH and I work together, share 50/50 on housework and childcare.

Don't ever see it as spending too much time together, just feel very lucky. We don't argue, it's all good. But there is definitely a time in the evening, where DH will want to unwind with a film, and I will toddle off to bed to mumsnet.

I'd never deny him space, but we enjoy each other's company a lot. He is my best friend.

But other couples would look at us and not want the same for them. I wouldn't judge either, you have to do what's right for your relationship.