First date

[ravenbird34]

I've come out of a long term relationship. Have been thinking about online dating for a few months but although I've been on it nothing much has happened. But finally set up a first date last night. And during it the guy told me he voted for UKIP. Also that he's quite conservative leaning, voted for the Tories this election and is a brexiteer.

I'm quite left wing and although I voted to remain it doesn't bother me so much but the UKIP stuff does. AIBU to call it off?

Personally, I could never shag a Tory, let alone a Kipper, but it is up to you. Plenty of others could/would.

Well that's exactly how I feel. I was quite at the UKIP stuff. I don't think there was much of a spark there either but normally I'd give it another date just to give it a chance but I feel like I should cut my losses. Can't help feeling that he's also the sort of guy that's polite but gets difficult and uncompromising really fast - although that's not a Tory/ukip thing!

Depends how much you think your views on politics will affect your other views or aspects of your (developing) relationship.

Personally, I don't think I could date someone with such different views to my own. But each to their own. (Potential) partners don't need to agree on everything

There you go then - cut your losses. It's only one date.

Yes you're right. He's messaged today saying he enjoyed it and asking if we'd like to meet up again. What should I reply back? Sorry to ask - I feel completely out of my depth doing online dating!

OP it's up to you if you see this guy again. You may see it as you might learn something from him - a different political perspective. Or you could just cut and run. I'm a lefty so would go for the latter but it's how you feel about it that matters

Just thank him for the date and wish him luck in the dating game.

Oposing views on politics would probably mean you have different core values, so for that alone I'd bale out after the first date. I'm interested to hear about others' political views and have a debate, but not in a relationship where I'm looking for someone similar to me. That coupled with you saying there wasn't much of a spark either and I'd definitely not go for a 2nd date. If it were me I'd be honest with him but try and be diplomatic.

I think similar political leanings are really important. My son and his wife are leave and remain and by god they are always at the counsellors trying to save their relationship. It does my head in.

Life is too short OP....plenty more fish, and all that. I ruthlessly edited about 200 contacts for varying degrees of fuckwittery, and then I met DP. :)