Weekend away gone wrong

[CharlesCheese]

I'm on a weekend away with DH. Very rare weekend away without the DC. Up until this evening it has been lovely. This evening he has got grumpy about something really (to my mind) unimportant and petty and has gone to bed in a strop.

I'm pretty upset about this as you might imagine. Not sure what I want from this thread really apart from maybe some company. This wasn't how I pictured our weekend :(

Oh dear I'm sorry to hear this. I have plenty of experience in this sort of thing so I know how you feel!

What's he stropped about?

We were in the pub after dinner and I was tired but he wanted to stay and have another beer and play on the fruit machine.

Not much to spoil a weekend away over, is it :(

That's really shit

Has he gone to sleep now?

Yep he's asleep. I'm lying in bed feeling rubbish!

Can you take yourself out for a walk? Are you in a safe area? Don't just lie in bed if you can help it...

Not really anywhere I can go, we're in a guest house and don't want to wake the whole house going out! I'll try to get some sleep in a little while. Went to the bathroom for a little cry earlier. How bloody glamorous

Slightly playing devil's avocado here, but why did your desire to go to bed early trump his wish to stay for another drink and play on the fruitie? Am assuming with this that he doesn't get much chance to do that either, and that's something he likes to do to relax. Why couldn't you go back to the room and he join you after one last drink?

Perhaps he didn't picture the weekend like this, either. Not saying that excuses him stropping like a tweenager, but perhaps this is him expressing his feelings too. Just trying to look for alternate interpretations.

Of course, Phoenix, that is all fair enough. I did offer to both stay in the pub (but waiting at the table for him) or for him to walk with me back to the guest house (just around the corner), let me in (only one set of keys) then go back to the pub. By then he was already in grumpy mode so he chose not to do either of those.

That's really sad and a bit weird. One would think he's be keen to get back to the B and B with his wife. Any other issues?

Grumpy daft sod then! Unless he interpreted you offering those options as trying to guilt trip him into doing what you wanted, so he did it but did not hide resentment.... either way it sounds like communication/listening skills are lacking somewhere.

Sorry that you have that deflated this-isn't-what-I-imagined feeling, it's rubbish. Tomorrow is another day though. Is there anything that helps you drift off to sleep particularly, meditation/mindfulness technique or listen to podcast/gentle music (put phone under pillow so it's quiet but you can hear it)? Or if you need to get some thoughts/feelings unravelled before you can settle - writing things down for yourself? Hotel rooms usually have a pen and paper somewhere.

Thank you both. He does have form for random grumpiness, has been an issue over the years but better lately. Just so sad that it has impinged upon our rare weekend away. It has helped chatting on here so thank you am going to try to sleep now and hope we can make it up in the morning. I will update. Thanks again x

Hope you get some rest, and that things look better in the light of day tomorrow

Tomorrow is another day.
Hope you get some sleep :-)

So sorry. You must have been really looking forward to it, it's worse somehow when it goes wrong, when it should be so good.

If we had a weekend without the dc, which never happens, DH would be rather desperate to get back to the hotel and not want to go out in the first place

Horrible going to bed feeling like that though. Hope you get some sleep and can turn it around tomorrow?

Don't let it ruin the weekend. Tomorrow is new day, wake up positive and have a great day together