Another boring moan about MOHs frustratingly stupid and very annoying dp

[MascaraOHara]

so I want to borrow his car for a week as it's twice the size of mine but I can't because it's a company car so I'm only insured third party.. so his daddy says 'no'. even though he always tells me he owns half the business.

So frustrating, he has a stupidly expenseive estate car that I'm not allowed to use when I need it.

One of their businesses is building 'our' house.. what's the betting I won't be able to decorate it without his dads permission?!?!?

I am so hacked off with this half baked relationship and yet none of it seems enough to make me want to leave him... He can't understand why I get arsey about the house, he thinks I'm ungrateful. In fact nobody that I have tried to tell how I feel about it understands.. My house might only be tiny but it's mine and I can't do what I like with it!

Why oh why can't we just have a normal relationship where we are equals?

how annoying about the car thing - that needs to be sorted _ I'd go bonkers if I couldn't drive dh's car when necessary.

What's the legal position on the house? Will you own it jointly?

Sounds like you need to get married

lol, lol... It's glaringly obvious why he won't marry me..

will never jointly own the house (I don't think) although he assures me will. My bug-bare is that I know I will feel resentful buying nice things for it when I won't ever feel like it's mine... Although I've told him if I don't like it I'm not moving in and if him and his dad decorate it whitout me having nay input I am definitely not moving in but hejust doesn't get it.

I just feel he hides behind the business, his dad when actually he just doesn't want to I just figure we are either in a long term 'proper' relationship or we're not?!?!

I'm so angry I've just gone back through my bank statement and worked out half the mortgage, gas, electric and water.. totalled it up and when he gets in I'm g oing to tell him I want him to pay half + half the food or he doesn't stay every night and he that'll he'll only be bale to stay some nights, when it suits us both.

it's like bashing your head against a brick wall!! I know that partly I'm jealous that he has such a cushy life but he really does need to get with the programme, maybe then he'll understand why I get so frustrated sometimes!

hmmm, you have your independence at the moment - it's asking a lot IMHO for you to give that up with no legal protection or clarity on the relationship (hence my needing to be married comment - not that you have to get married, just that it simplifies the legalities of it all)

well quite Iota. Honestly, you'd think he was low level royalty not some put of condition, receeding 30-something with a beer belly and drink problem. lol...

I'm positively excited aboutt he prospect of this evenings conversation

mascara ohara..why do you think you stay with him? there must be something there

could he not offer to do what needs to be done in BIG car?...?
its a partnership he's in ....with YOU ...not his dad..sounds like too cushty and controlling by dad though why not stand up to him or put you on insurance for more cover?? ....

..cant remember but was if it was you the other night but have read some sad relationship posts lately, drink and stuff?

hmmm, don't think it was me.. I normally post about him under my normal name, I might have posted something.. I'm normally whinging about him.

I wanted to take it on holiday as more room in it for all the stuff.

Nothing ever seems bad enough to leave him over when you compare it to my past relationships. I've let dd get too attached to him anyway and essentially he's really been trying lately, if you know my old posts about him, he gets up in the mornings, dresses dd, gets her breakfast and makes me a cup of tea, this week he's even made me sandwiches.. he's not all bad just thoughtless, self-centered, stupid and not living in the real world..

he just called, he's on his way round.. very nervous all of a sudden.

tell a lie.. was it the... he hasn't been home for 2 days thread? yes that was me. lol.

nervous..good, keep him that way! on his toes!!

am glad & i didnt know the good stuff ..just thought i recognised name..great name too btw

Er, I'm not sure the making of sarnies outweighs the assessment that he's "thoughtless, self-centered, stupid and not living in the real world.."

well yes Tribot but then I compare it to the long ongoing trial that is his weekend antics and a week of sarnies seems insignificant but it isn't so then we go round and round in circles.. he has been much better lately (and keeps improving) but then he still pretty much lives by his rules