Lonely and lost friendships

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Does anyone else feel like since they've become a parent they've lost friends? I'm in my late 20s and none of my 'friends' have kids. They all wanted to ask how me and my son were when he was little but now no one bothers. It's become very lonely. I'm also a single parent, so no one to talk to in the evenings. Just feel angry and sad. Just because I have a child doesn't mean I've changed, I still like to socialise and talk about other things. Dunno just feel a bit lost and lonely atm.

Guess I'm the only one

Bumping for you :).

Any new mum friends on your horizon?

We lost all our friends virtually the moment i announced I was pregnant.

Much older childfree set of people

Not just you. Basically since becoming a parent I have acquaintances and a few good friends who I see a couple of times a year but my friends from uni time all fell by the wayside through their own choice (not lack of effort on my part). I try to make up for the lack of social life through a hobby which I really enjoy. But I do miss having friends I can just ring for a chat.

Mine isn't quite the same situation but I've moved around quite a bit and also been married more than once so have lost friends that way.
Although I'm quite happy in my own company there is not a single person I could have a coffe and a chat with, sometimes that makes me quite sad.

Hi OP; I didn't want to read and run so saying hi and sending love; am in COMPLETELY the same boat as you and would love to chat / get same answers etc. Will message again when we get home from swim school x

I'm married but feel the same. I have SOME old friends but we don't connect in the same way as before.

It's very tough and it's actually what I've found most difficult. My DS is now at nursery and I keep waiting to make the mum friends I keep hearing about but to no avail.

tiktok thanks. No, no new mummy friends. My son goes to nursery twice a week but the mums there pick their children up at different times so i never see anyone.

oliversmums really? Mine stuck around a little bit longer. I didnt get invited to a few partys which upset me because the other girls in the group were.

Sugar i try to have a hobby but the nights my LB goes to his dads aren't the same every week, so id only be able to go every other week to something.

carrier that must be tough moving around. I'm not quite happy with my own company yet. Still getting used to the single parent life. But it is have realising you dont have someone to chat to even about the smallest of funny things that happen

moany same, most of my friends are from school/old workplace and i just find it hard to be on the same page as them now.
Yea im awaiting the mummy friends i keep hearing about too but still nothing there either

gottotnamechange aw thank you. Have fun at swim school x

Ok here's an idea: a get together for the nursery mums, just a coffee and cake session. I bet there will be a few who would love it. If it goes well, make it a regular event. The nursery might be happy to post a notice about it on the board or let you hand out little flyers about it. It's from these sorts of things that friendships grow.

What do you think? :)