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Please don't judge

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user1498250244 · 23/06/2017 21:48

Hi all I'm new here please don't judge. I'm a mum to 2 beautiful girls who has been having a rough ride with my husband. We have tried to work it through very long story - used to be totally head over heels normal
Life stuff got in the way work, kids etc he checked out for work reasons i built a life outside both work a lot I travel a probs a lot. He ended up "Sexting" his PA last year. We go to counselling every month to air things. In the main it's ok but I just don't feel it. I have feelings for someone else (sorry). Just such a mess husband is trying I just don't feel how I used to anymore. I'm devastated cant think of breaking my girls hearts but I'm here but not here. Has anyone else ever felt this way?

OP posts:

Blondielongie · 23/06/2017 22:04

Your husband has been cheating on you.. you now have feelings for someone else.

You should leave him. Don't you think you should be happy?

How old are the girls?

user1497997754 · 23/06/2017 22:17

Just a thought everyone thinks the grass is greener on the other side....it's basically the same old grass that needs to be mown....

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user1498250244 · 23/06/2017 22:22

Girls are 8 and 10 lobe their daddy so much who is an amazing daddy just not feeling it like I should at all

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AyeAmarok · 23/06/2017 22:24

He can still be an amazing dad if you separate.

Then they won't have to grow up with parents who are constantly cheating on each other as a model of marriage.

Aquamarine1029 · 24/06/2017 02:28

When you go to counseling, and even at home, have you actually told him you're not feeling it anymore? Regardless of what happens in the future, there is no way you could possibly repair the relationship until you put all the cards on the table.

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user1498250244 · 25/06/2017 18:26

Honestly I've tried but I don't think I've really said it all and I know that is the problem. I have said it in counselling we then leave and get on with "normal"

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Blondielongie · 25/06/2017 20:41

I don't think you've been able to move forward from the sexting by the sounds of your posts. I would say to maybe set yourself a deadline (a few months/a year/your choice) and tell yourself you won't act on impulses until you can decide if you can forgive and move on or not.

If you decide by the deadline you aren't over it and still having feelings for someone else, you should end the relationship before you start something with this other person.

If you can't trust him anymore, don't feel bad about it. You have reason not to trust him, he broke your trust when he started this thing with the OW. That would be enough for me. Sorry you are going through this

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