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My ex bought a flat the next day we broke up and after he got me in a homeless situation

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user1498060624 · 23/06/2017 13:46

Hi all,

Just giving you an update.

My other threads are:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2960880-Today-the-struggle-is-real-I-feel-dead-inside-me-and-I-want-to-quit-my-studies

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2960245-I-told-his-mum-that-he-is-abusing-me-and-she-applauded-him-since-she-hated-me-being-a-foreigner?watched=1&msgid=69926353#69926353

if you want a story background.

So he got me into a homeless situation since February whilst he knew that I was going through difficulties due to my phd. He said I could live at his parents which I accepted, but his parents live 30miles away from the city in the countryside without regular buses so after 3 days I moved to a friend's house.

During all this time I was searching for properties while he was laid back and eventually we placed two offers but the houses were faulty so the offers were withdrawn.

The day he kicked me out of his parents house and disposed my belongings in the fields, we were arguing that I go through major difficulties at work and I am homeless because he decided we leave our rented property so he can save money for the mortgage deposit.
He said hurtful things like 'you are a bitch so why would I hurry to buy a property to accomodate you?' or 'This is my parents house and I am fine living here I dont care if you like or not' or 'why would I hurry to get a place for YOU' and of course I got reactive and told him that he is not a man capable of keeping me in his life and I'd better stop wasting my life with him and that I will find someone better who will support me and love me truly!

He then proceeded with grabbing me from my hair, pushing me in his car violently, smashing my luggage on the ground, slamming the brakes while I wasn't wearing a belt so I can see who is 'the man' and then drove like insane while I was begging him to drive slower, before he disposed me somewhere miles away.

The next day he texted me saying he has a flat viewing and if I want to see it. Of course I said no.

Two days later he texted me to say he bought the flat-which is unfortunately located really close to where I currently live.

So much 'love' for someone who 'supported me' throughout my difficult times, right?

Sorry for ranting, I still havent gotten over him despite being an abuser and I feel better if I share these things with you.

Any thoughts?Is it coincidence that he bought the flat after he got rid of me or do you think he did it on purpose?

Thank you for reading :)

OP posts:
scorchioinJune · 23/06/2017 20:37

It's no good telling us what a complete shitbag he is if you don't believe it.
So what if he bought the flat to wind you up? Escape the drama. You want a calm happy live with a calm happy partner who will bring you joy. The only way to get this is to realise this relationship was rubbish even if you did fancy each other.

There's lots of " him" and " he" in your post. And yet you must know you can't do anything about his behaviour? You need to think about posting with more " me" and "I" because the one you can do something about.

user1498060624 · 23/06/2017 20:54

Actually at this very moment I have realised and confirmed who he is because he has just threatened that unless I leave the UK soon what has happened so far will look minor in comparison!

And I am alone, scared and shitting myself :(((((((((((

OP posts:
mummytime · 23/06/2017 20:55

Phone the police!

CosyPinkBlanket · 23/06/2017 23:07

I know you said in your other thread that you didn't want to get the police involved after last time but please PLEASE phone the police. And Women's Aid. Please keep trying if you can't get through. Do you still feel safe in the house you are in? Please phone the police and make yourself safe. xx

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