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ok so does the 7 year icth really exist.....

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daisey · 21/03/2007 14:15

following on from my other thread about dp and i experiecing problems lust/sex department after being together 7 years alot was mentioned about the 7 year itch.
There must be some truth behind it so why after 7 years do things fizzle out and can you get it back and if so how? Im intrigued.....

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Dior · 21/03/2007 14:16

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ScottishThistle · 21/03/2007 14:16

My friend had an affair after 7yrs but I think it was more of a coincidence than anything else as she married a Man she wasn't head over heels about!

Greenshoots · 21/03/2007 14:28

Our 7th will be in July, although we have been together for nearly 11 years now. Not a hint of an itch as yet

bellarosa · 21/03/2007 20:47

We are fast approaching our 7 yr aniversary and there is quite alot of itching of feet going on! or are we just plain fed up with each other, or board, or too tired, too immature to sort it out, or just grown appart, or have we grown up into different types of people... i dont know!

frenchconnection · 22/03/2007 09:49

i got the 5 yr itch! now we are splitting... it takes different amounts of time for everyone but sooner or later you will get bored of each other.

Greenshoots · 22/03/2007 12:51

frenchconnection that's rather a sweeping assumption

frenchconnection · 22/03/2007 13:44

oh ok sorry, thats just my experience

adozenroses · 22/03/2007 14:54

Me and dh had a five-year-itch! It was a very awful time for us both. We didn't talk or have any physical contact!! We turned into strangers and were pretty much ready to split.

Thankfully neither of us strayed in any way, and with a lot of work on our relationship, we managed to fix things between us.

Now we are closer than ever. But it does worry me if we go through this again at any stage as I don't even know what caused it in the beginning. All I try to do is tell my husband how much I love him and take time to kiss and hug him - and also talk, something we never did.

I think things began to go wrong when we stopped chatting to each-other and only spoke about the kids. Probably a problem a lot of couples fall into over time.

Wow!! Think I waffled a bit there, and didn't make a point!!

Boobsgonesouth · 22/03/2007 14:59

Dh always 'traded in' girlfriends at 5 years....and then I caught him having an affair after 5 years together (nothing changed then ) ...We've been married for coming up 11 years (so 2 lots of 5 years) and certainly the passion has gone. We are great friends though and have very similar outlook on life and what we want from it...just wish some of that passion would come back.....

Hopeitwontbebig · 29/03/2007 11:24

Me and DH have been married 9 years this year and are really happy and expecting our 3rd baby. However, have to say that our 7th year of marriage was the pits, I would often wonder what would happen if we split etc !!! Couldn't even imagine thinking that now. Think there must be something in that 7 year itch saying!!

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