I need some help!!

[LittleMissRayOfHope]

So I have a good friend, I don't want to risk my relationship with her. But I've developed quite strong feelings for her dad. (He is divorced, He's older then me, but I'm older then my friend)
I've been trying to push this aside for some time but I find it growing. It had stopped growing, but in the last few weeks he's been funny with me. He's always been very warm and welcoming and makes a point of speaking with me and being available. But then a few weeks back he suddenly became more withdrawn. Tongue tied and awkward. He's fine when it's just me and him, but if my friend is in the room too he seems uncomfortable.

I don't want a relationship with this man. It would not be sustainable anyway. And I would rather have my friend stay my friend then lose her for something that might not be anyway.

I just need some help moving on.

I'm not a troll.
This is happening in my life and I can't tell anyone about it for obvious reasons.

Just need a little support I guess. I don't want to lose my friend, she's more important to me. But we socialise at her house a lot. So I see him a lot. And I'm feeling uncomfortable around him.
I don't want things to get weird. I just want a way to move on!

If you're not wanting a relationship with him, then I think it's just a matter of letting the crush pass. They always feel overwhelming and intense, but I'd put money on you looking back in 6 months and thinking "what was I thinking?!" 😉
Just try and relax and if it's taking over too many of your thoughts, maybe socialise outside of her house? Out of sight, out of mind.

Oh God I sympathise massively. This happened to me many years ago, and it did not go well.

All I can suggest is trying to avoid being around him as much as possible and focussing on stuff that might put you off him, ear hair? He might wear terrible pants? Wears Old Spice?

Change his name in your head to 'dad' .

Oh my god, terrible pants!

He has quite impeccable taste with his style of clothing and the like so old spice is unlikely 😂

Thank you for replies. I feel like it's this HUGE cloud hanging over me. He is in all my thoughts. It is an obsession!
I do hope the crush passes. They usually do, but I've never had such an overwhelming crush on someone so intergrated into my life. That hasn't ended in some level of a relationship.

I like Old Spice!