ExP has bipolar disorder. Since Christmas, he has been going through a manic stage - suffering with severe delusions and paranoia, fighting, drug taking and agitation.
He did go through this whilst I was pregnant a few years ago, was severely manic and took lots of drugs. I broke up with him, he got depressed, I managed to get him to the doctors and on meds for the first time ever and he got better. He really believes in the power his bipolar meds have, but I think either they don't work as well for mania as depression - or the cocaine stops it from working. Or both.
This time it has manifested itself as severe paranoia about me. He believes I slept with pretty much all of his friends when we were together, and has been extremely abusive pretty much every day (verbally) for the entire year, which has led me to suffer pretty badly with anxiety/ depression. Needless to say I never cheated on him or wanted to.
He has supervised contact, advised by social services but as I was already doing the right stuff, they signed her off and said I was able to make correct decisions and didn't need their input. The lady supervising the contact was a family friend, exP lived with her as a lodger alongside her sons (his oldest friends) and some teenage (over 18) students and I trusted her to supervise correctly. Contact has been minimal, short and sporadic.
She turned up at my house last night crying her eyes out, saying exP has beaten up her son because he thinks he's slept with me, and also suspects her other son - so was scared he was going to come to her house and beat him up too. With two young students in the house.
I've heard that if he feels like somebody looks at him the wrong way, he gets convinced that they're sleeping with me, even if they have no idea who I am. I've tried to speak to him countless times, but he won't listen to me or anyone.
I was up half the night worrying about these people. I can't believe he's turned on this woman and her sons, who are like his family. I have several years professional experience with mentally unwell people, and I truly believe he needs to be sectioned. I think that's the only thing that will get him clean and engaging with psychiatrists and MH professionals.
But is this the right thing to do? If the rapid response line goes to assess him and he's acting quite normal, he will know it's me and that will cause all sorts of trouble. I am truthfully doing it because I'm worried about what he could do to others, and himself. But he won't see it like that. It will cause a shitstorm. Shall I stay out of it? Or call them?
I don't think I'm at risk physically. Apart from the odd abusive message, he seems resigned to the fact I've done this and it's other people he's going after. I think he's suicidal too. He's made suicide attempts in the past.