I am a very emotional person & do tend to hold onto stuff when perhaps I should let it go. We have been having enormous problems with DD (8) & tonight she had yet another huge meltdown. Unfortunately I ended up yelling at her. It all calmed down & me & my DH both talked to DD about what happened & I said sorry for shouting. Later on, I sighed because I was exhausted by what had happened & DH asked me what was up. Trouble is, he will do that, but unless my answer is " Nothing" he tends to be quite negative & I am tempted to ask him why he bothered asking! It's almost like he finds it hard to cope with my emotions. He kind of wants me to get over stuff but if it was him, he would sometimes still be brooding ages afterwards ( he will ask after an argument too & then instead of supporting me or being sympathetic, he will sometimes have another go). It's actually really difficult to explain. Sometimes I feel as if DH is trying to tell me how to feel but maybe that's being a bit dramatic. Perhaps it's a man/woman thing where men do just move on & they can't understand how a woman is still brooding. DH has been like this for years but at other times ( not following emotionally charged situations), he is supportive & loving.