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arghhh - I want to hug and strangle DH all at the same time.........

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fannyannie · 21/03/2007 12:17

he's took today off work as he's finished the batch of work they sent him 2 weeks ago. So, instead of sitting down and relaxing he's decided to "tidy up"........he's currently blitzing the kitchen and bathroom and I'm eternally grateful to him.......but at the same time I want to strangle him as I'm feeling completely hopeless at the housework ATM......

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LilyLoo · 21/03/2007 12:21

Why are you not sitting there with your feet up, nice cup of tea, watching tv ? Honestly you've got it made where can i get one of them ?

raspberryberet · 21/03/2007 12:22

Just as you should never wake a sleeping baby, you should never stop a man doing housework. It's one of those indisputable facts!

Don't worry about being useless at housework; you're pregnant, you're allowed to be useless at housework.

WaynettaSlob · 21/03/2007 12:25

god it's annoying when they do that isn't it! DH can happily sit down some evening while I tidy / do ironing whatever, and I don't begrudge him it, but anytime hs starts to do stuff I tense up and feel as though I have failed somehow (and we both work FT so chores are definitely shared). Plus, they never seem to do it calmly - as you say it's always a 'blitz' designed I think to cause as much attention (or tension?!!!) as possible!!

HappyDaddy · 21/03/2007 12:25

Women are never happy . Enjoy him doing the chores for once. Keep it filed for next time so you can say "but you did that so much better than me".

clumsymum · 21/03/2007 12:28

Can't you find a little drawer or something that needs sorting out?

Then you are doing something useful, but not exactly taxing.

Mossie · 21/03/2007 12:43

If you've had enough, send him round here and he can tidy up while I put some music on, sip on a nice brew and put my feet up!

Seriously though, I would enjoy it while you can.

I am on mat leave atm, due in under a week, and do everything round the house (which is obvy fair enough as I don't have my lo just yet!) and twice a day dh calls me to ask if I'm okay... "oh and while I'm on, if you get bored you could always do X / Y / Z couldn't you?" I snapped at him a bit yesterday when he did this and he said (huffily) "oh, I see. I was only calling to see how you were. I'll get back to work now."

So if my dh took a day off to clean up I'd be well made up!

taylormama · 21/03/2007 12:44

those words have never, ever come out of my DH's mouth - enjoy - spend even longer on MN!!!!

fryalot · 21/03/2007 12:45

fannyannie - I know exactly how you feel. dp decided to do this on Sunday as a mothers day treat for me. He cleaned the kitchen. I was at how bad it had got (although he did clean cupboards I never use)

It's great that they want to help, but they seem to have a perfect knack of making you feel totally useless, don't they.

Never mind, he'll be back at work soon, and normal service will be resumed.

lulumama · 21/03/2007 12:45

LOL ! FA - yesterday, I left DH a list of things that needed doing, and took DD out....when i returned, he had done them ! and he was on a roll !! eeeeeeeeeek ! reorganised the kitchen cannot find anything ! have a new lamp ,which does not match the style of room....and had to email him to find out where the tortilla wraps were hidden?!!!!!!!

mossie..you not had that baby yet??

fattime · 21/03/2007 12:46

I feel complete hopeless when it comes to housework full stop! Shame you live miles from me otherwise I would say bring him round while I take you out to have lunch, afternoon tea as a thank you, by then he should have made a dent in my housework!

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fannyannie · 21/03/2007 12:46

thing is he does do the housework better than me......and when he's already suffering from a bad back due to handwashing clothes in the bath (washing been broken since last Monday) it makes me feel even worse.

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fattime · 21/03/2007 12:47

Oh dear does that mean you will be having to nurse his back later?!

Mossie · 21/03/2007 12:47

Lol Lulumama... I'm only 39+1 you know! Although I am hiding now from the neighbours as every time I see them it's "hi Mossy you still pg?"

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fannyannie · 21/03/2007 12:48

fat chance of that - I've got the after school service to play for at 3.20 then I'll be back to cook dinner, then off to choir practice from 7-8 - then I'm working tonight so will be out of the house again from 9.30pm

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lulumama · 21/03/2007 13:04

i know mossie...just want to drive you mad ! coz you cannot reach to slap me !

Mossie · 21/03/2007 13:08

Lulumama I don't want to slap you tho' if you're still saying it if I get to 41 weeks might be a different matter!

snowleopard · 21/03/2007 13:13

Ha ha when I read about some of the DPs/DHs on here, I do agree the poor man should be cut a bit of slack - but still I know how you feel too. My DP once - as a student - worked for a cleaning company that would do big team "deep cleans" and totally blitz a house, eg to prepare it for selling. Because of this he is convinced he knows everything about cleaning and does it fantastically well - and of course he must use 17 of the shiniest, most expensive, chemically enhanced products - and then ponce on about he has really done a proper job (subtext - even though I do it 99 times out of 100, it is only really properly done when he does it) - grrr!

But, if you're pg you're entitled to be annoyed about absolutely anything.

sunnyjim · 23/03/2007 09:10

Oh I know how you feel, DH does his all the time. He will complely fail to do anyhing during the week and say he has to work in the evenings. (He has watched 3 films so far this week)
then one day at the weekend he will decide o bliz a room - what annoys me is that
a) he just takes it for granted that I will look after DS while he does this. And frankly I'd prefer to be doing the ironing or tidying a cupboard rather than going to the park in the cold with DS for the 5th time this week.
b) he doesn't do any of the other stuff, so he will blitz one room but not even do a quick once over in other rooms. One day I cam back to find the utility room was sparkling. Now it did need a good tidy but as the living room was still a tip and the washing up hadn't been done I did get annoyed as I still had that to do.
c) If I'm in the house he has an unerring knack of choosing the exact moment DS is in bed for a nap and I'm collapsing for a sit down and some lunch to start hoovering up and tidying in whichever room I am in - and I find it impossible to chill out when someone is hoovering under my feet!

purplemonkeydishwasher · 23/03/2007 09:29

i'm glad i'm not the only one who gets like this.

and it usually happens when HE has misplaced something. then it's all (PMD puts on deep man voice) 'this place is a tip grumble grumble grumble!' as he wanders arouns with a binbag.

then he'll say 'are you doing something with this?' 'are you keeping this for a reason?' 'is this pile of laundry here for a reason or shall i put it in the washer?'

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