Really need some opinions please

[Kaykay86]

Hi all im having major issues in my relationship which started a few months ago. Ive been with my partner for 3 years and we used to get on great but recently his behaviour has changed and im looking for a reason behind all of this. He always used to come out with me wherever i went now he wants to stay at home on occassions, is trying to get me out of the house alot and wants to go out on his own all the time which makes me suspicious. He even wants to know every detail as though he wants to know whats going on as if to let someone else know. I know that may sound paranoid but i feel that there is something going on and when i ask he rants and raves. The other week he had quite a bit of money and i didnt see a penny of it even though we usually share. He even wants to sleep on the couch more now theres no affection at all.

You poor thing. I think everyone is right, he has checked out of your relationship even if there is no OW. Loving someone is so complicated, my DH and me have recently made a fresh start so it is possible to get things back on track and rekindle love. I hope that this can be the case for you as well.

He tells me to leave all of a sudden hes done this a few times over nothing so l tell him to try to find better than me because obviously with his behaviour towards me and the distance between us (keep sleeping downstairs) there must be someone else. He tells me that there is no one else well i say tells me he shouts. Then says he didnt mean it and that he loves me and my child when he feels like talking to me again. The child isn"t his biological child so there are no ties there he is wonderful with my child and treats him like his own. I want to be with him out of the love i have for him this behaviour isnt his usual behaviour so im at a loss as to what the problem is apparently its me and he wont be with another woman as ive put him off women altogether lol

Who cares if it is another woman? You are in a shit relationship. So either accept that or leave.

But you're just going round in circles!

If he won't elaborate then you need to draw the line for him. Can't keep going on like this.

Whatever is going on the relationship sounds toxic and it must be a horrible and scary environment for your child to grow up in. I think you really need to stand back and think about the type of home you want your son to grow up in. Even if you do love this man, that feeling is irrelevant when the relationship is creating misery for everyone in the house and your sons has to live with the pressure of your relationship drama.

It doesn't matter if there's another woman or not (and there may not be), the relationship is toxic.

Once you become a parent your responsibility is to put your kid first by providing a happy, secure home. No man who brings anything other than happiness and security should be let past the door. Your partner needs to be gone.

How much you (think you) love him is irrelevant...love your child and yourself more and move on from him

Both of you are showing your child a poor template for how relationships work

Most people are nice to little kids....but he is a shit role model and your abject and baseless hero worship of this prick is a poor example to either boy or girl children