I miss DH

[Flamesparrow]

I have been a horrible stressed out bitch the last few weeks - he seems to come home from work to a sh*thole home, me stressed with children, no decent dinner, and then I start snapping at him about not being able to do everything.

As a result we are spending most evenings lately hardly talking - not in a stroppy way, more that he knows he can't do anything right so he has just stopped trying

I'm so tired all the time (I should be in bed now I know), and its turned into a viscious cycle.

If I ask if he is ok he says he's just tired, but I know its more than that.

Not sure what I am wanting here, just needed to a bit

go to bed early for a few nights and you will feel better xx

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Hi Flame. I wasn't sure what to say but just wanted to let you know that we are stuck in exactly the same cycle. We hardly have a civil word to say anymore because it ends up me snapping at him over the house/housework. Over and over. Same thing. It sucks.

Just had to let you know you aren't alone!

We're going out next weds, but I am worried it will be eating in silence

I hate being so horrible to eveyrone all the time.

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Thank you Zephyr.

I will try to Dior. I've hurt my back at the moment and I am up now because it hurts too much to lay down

I'm similar. Have been tired, ill, stressed re house move - nightmare.

Write him a note? Tell him you love him.

Thanks for your email, btw - I'll get it in the post by the end of the week. It barely cost anything, so it can be your present to cheer you up this week

Thank you!

you've got to get some sleep! take ibuprofen for your back.

Poor you, it is quite exhausting bringing up a young family, especially with the amount of pressure in modern life. If we believed advertising for example, we'd all be suicidal because our homes are not show homes. If we believed everything we read and saw on TV we would think ourself the only one who ever lost their temper or was too tired to cook fresh vegetables, or repair their own plumbing.

I believe something has to give when you have children under 5 (you do, don't you?) and anyone who does keep up to these high ideals is going to pay for it in some way - with stress of some kind.

You have to accept that this is a time that does pass and you become less tired as your children grow older.

Why not go to your GP and explain how you've been feeling. I can't say what he might suggest but it would be best to check for an underlying physical cause, at least. And you will feel heard and understood, which is something more valuable than we realise.

Then tell your DH what you have just told us. He might be worried that you don't love him any more and simply not realise it is pure exhaustion. Give him a chance to understand. You might find it helps you both to reach a new depth in your marriage.

Had my mum on the phone this morning - she thinks I'm cracking up and that me n DH are on the verge of divorce She worries about our coupleness a lot - partly because hers went wrong (she blames herself for that sooo much - the fact that my dad was a lying arse seems to slip her mind!!), and partly because she is guarantor for our rent and is terrified we'll split, not pay rent and she'll lose her house Told her many times that we'd just live miserable rather than let that happen!!!

Anyway - I'm rambling.

A lto brighter this morning - my back has eased overnight and I managed to get sleep. I have woken hungry (not had an appetite in ages - also worrying my mum as I have lost so much weight).

I'm going to email DH - as impersonal as it sounds, he is a computer lovin Boy and its always easier to get him to pay attention on computer!!!

keep on with the sleep love

it's amazing what even a missed hour can do