I am so sorry so many of you are going through the same. Lots of hugs and love to you! Hope we all get to the other end of this pain in good time.
So two years ago he told me that he had slept with a prostituted woman. He didn't volunteer the info but sort of had no way to hide it. I had a positive test for an STI and he had to come clean that I'd gotten ill through sex with him. The positive result turned out to be false positive.the relief of the false positive made me overlook his infidelity and think that we were going to be fine.
He acted up a lot. Very entitled generally.
After I kicked him out he initially said things like:
What we had wasn't great either.
You denied me intimacy (I hadn't slept with him for two weeks, one week I was on my period and he doesn't want period sex).
You couldn't love me the way I deserve 🎻
You wanted to divorce anyway and I gave you a reason.
Etc etc.
Then he started minimising
He loves me huge amounts.
This was an accident.
He only did it because he'd always fancied it up the bum and she said that's what she wanted.
He is now getting an apartment nearby, not going to his job abroad and will win my love and trust. How I laugh at this because I know this effort will not last longer than a week at best.
Meanwhile, I have barely slept. Ate two two egg omelettes and three chicken thighs over last four days. I did have quite a bit of wine.
I have spoken with family and friends. While my immediate family are supportive, there are quite a few people gently pressuring me to take him back. No chance!!!