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Cheated what now

29 replies

HotTears · 18/06/2017 11:45

So i found out last night tgat my DP of 8 years has been messaging another woman. He accidentely sent me a message that was meant for her arranging to meet at a hotel.

We have one DD and i am just heartbroken. He denied everything until this morning.
He has told me that it has only being going on a few weeks and he has only been messaging her that nothing has happened yet and that he met her on a night out.

He wants to try work things out says he doesnt want to lose me. I am so upset and cant believe he would do this to me im so hurt and dont know what to do i cud never forgive him.

Things have not been great between us the past few months but we had a big chat during the week and he promised to changa and make things better( he has been pretty horrible over the last few months).

I dont know what to do i cant stop thinking about it and its tearing me apart. How do i get on with this. He wants to try talk to me this evening but im torn about what i should do

Please someone give me some advice what would you do ?

OP posts:
HotTears · 18/06/2017 15:27

I just cant believe this is.happening to me i wish there was a way of going back but i cant see how that is possible i feel like there is a cloud hanging over me all day cant pull myself out of this misery

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lurkingwithlove · 18/06/2017 15:35

Yes I know. I felt like he'd driven a knife through my heart. It's just horrible. Can you go for a really long walk or write it all out, anything to take up energy? Are you managing to eat or at least drink? Be gentle with yourself. Can you speak to a friend/sibling in real life? Even if just on the phone?

HotTears · 18/06/2017 15:43

I have been talking to friends and will be meeting a friend soon, thankfully i have very supportive friends

I cant face eating but have just about been drinking water

I just dont understand why someone would want to throw away everything our family our plans for the future for someone hes only met recently it kills me to think how little i meant to him for him to do something as bad as this to me i feel like i will never get over it have barely stopped crying all day

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ohforfoxsake · 18/06/2017 15:44

I'm so sorry OP. It's just awful.

It is a shock, and heartbreaking, but you won't feel like this for ever. Very same thing happened to me. It's going to be ok.

Keep posting and getting MN support.

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