Top relationship/dating tips

[Onecabbagetree]

What are yours? Have just been thinking about this recently as find them useful. Mine that I try to live by but it's hard are:

• If someone is sending mixed messages the message is clear - they aren't that into you

• Nothing grows in the shade (i.e. give situations space)

• If someone is really into you, you'll know without having to google it/ask about it/overthink it

What are yours?

Raise your value by not being available all days/times. If they won't wait until you are available they weren't that interested in the first place. Be a bit of a challenge.

Accept people as they are or move on.

Don't change yourself to be more acceptable to them.

Only have sex if you want to have sex, don't expect an instant relationship afterwards.

Go out with people who don't tick ALL your boxes and give them two dates to decide if they are for you - unless they are a complete turn off.

Turn off last seen in what's app

Don't try to over complicate things. Men are really simple.

And think no further ahead, than the time you've been together. There's nothing more stifling than someone talking about marriage & all that, when you should be happy dating, which is surely the best bit

Don't worry so much about whether they like you that you forget to consider whether you actually like them.

Actions speak louder than words.

If it's hard work from a very early point, it's just not worth it. No matter WHAT the 'reason'.

This rule of thumb has never failed!

They should walk the walk, rather than talk the talk. It's all bullshit until it actually happens.

Don't worry so much about whether they like you that you forget to consider whether you actually like them

This!!

So obvious, but so easily forgotten (in my case, at least )...

*If it's hard work from a very early point, it's just not worth it. No matter WHAT the 'reason'.

This rule of thumb has never failed!*

^^ This x 10000000

Don't make someone a priority if they only see you as an option.

If it's hard work, it's not worth it

What muddling said. Be somebody's choice, not somebody's option.

A guy I dated once told me a nurse gave him crabs . If this happens to you on a date, run like the fucking wind

Don't try to change them into something of your ideal person. If when you meet someone and you think they would be perfect apart from a couple of things walk away they will become mountains

Listen to what they say and show some interest in their interests, you don't have to do them.

Let them have space to do things they enjoy that you are not so keen on.

Let them know you still desire them/love them etc, don't be overbearing/sleazy on the desire one.

Be honest with them, don't lead someone on when you are hoping something better will come along.

Be honest about children and accept people may change their mind.

Make an effort for them, once you are married its not good to suddenly become a slob.

Work at it, put the effort in, if they had a bad day or family etc are causing them pain give them the shoulder to cry on and your total support.

Don't be with anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself.

It's obvious, but lots of people do/have done this, myself included.

Don't fast-forward to the future and forget to ask yourself whether you are truly happy now. Exactly as things are right here in the now.

If you're thinking that things will be perfect when we... if he... then no they won't be.

And a man who is into you tends to show you he is into you. If you're asking the question it's a bad sign.

Don't be with anyone who makes you feel bad about yourself

Yes, exactly. Pay attention to how you feel after spending time with some. If you're left feeling anxious or depleted, you'd do well to bin them.