Is guilt induced flower buying a real thing?

[FritzDonovan]

Wondering if anyone has actually looked back on those random bouquets from OH and realised that they did indeed coincide with shitty behaviour which wasn't apparent at the time?

Yes. Flowers and presents.

I call them Tony Sopranos

We had a friend who used to to this. It seemed so obvious ( and tacky) to us but they are still securely married 30 years down the line . We never knew what his partner thought.

I'm sure it is for some, but my DH occasionally buys me flowers for no reason and there have been no 'reasons' and he doesn't feel guilty.

It's infrequent though... maybe twice a year?

Yes

Yes.
I do not like receiving them for that very reason...in fact there is only one man in my life who has ever been able to give me flowers without me throwing them straight in the bin and throwing up. The bigger the bouquet, the bigger the sin and if it's a petrol station bunch... it's almost certainly the end - for me, anyway.

DH doesn't appear to feel guilt about anything these days.....can't remember the last time I got a bunch.

Yes. Xh rarely bought me flowers but I now know the two most recent were after he'd cheated. I strongly suspect the others were too.

No, not with my OH. He knows full well if he has pissed me off then flowers will not fix it! He needs to fix it! Or explain if I am in the wrong but he knows i am never wrong. On the other hand I know every other friday he will be coming home from work with a bunch of flowers and steak for our dinner.
Some people are happy with guilt flowers, i am probably highly strung but in our home if you screw up you fix it with actions not gifts. It works for us.

In that case dh's conscience must be pure as the driven: he hasn't bought me any flowers since my wedding bouquet 25 years ago. But then he is pretty good husband.

I'm a florist.....and yes. Definitely a thing!

My DH buys me flowers quite regularly, but he has never bought me flowers to apologise for anything.

Unrequested cups of tea, hoovering or ironing are the way back into my good books. Something the children have also learned.