Was he a dick or was I?

[FeellikeAdick]

can I have your opinions on this?
Split up with ex h 6 months ago and over the last few days I've started sort of waking up and very tentatively toying with the idea of going near another man again - nothing major and I am definitely not ready to have a relationship but just kind of been thinking it might be nice to have a bit of male attention. I'm also really horny (sorry).
Last night I went out with my friend and I was so looking forward to it. There we were dancing and a guy started chatting to me. I didn't think he was particularly attractive at first but he ended up being really funny/flirty and my mind started to wander....
He was very tactile, touching my hair, complimenting me all that. We had been like this for about 2 hours when the night started to come to an end. He then asked me if I was married. I said no. I asked him.. he said he was! I was probably (annoyingly) visibly disappointed and I really wish I had just pretended I didn't care. I then shortly after left the place and went home. It didn't help my pride that I slipped on something wet on the floor and fell flat on my arse!!! Arrrrggghh I don't think he saw that but I put my head down and just ran out and got a taxi. End of.
I felt really annoyed this morning. My pride was probably hurt if I'm honest and I started thinking should I have asked him this straight away??? He wasn't wearing a ring and I commented on that and he said that it just slips off sometimes (yeah ok then).
Was he a dick? I feel really stupid and wish I hadn't wasted 3 fucking hours flirting with a fucking married man.
I'm really hungover today and a bit down and I'm probably being a bit silly over nothing I know that. It just felt like he was taking the piss massively. I went out to smoke a fag after he told me that and when I came back him and his friends were gone from where we'd all been standing.
So in order to avoid this type of thing next time what the hell do I do? Ask the guy straight away which really would seem weird... the other thing I'm thinking is that he asked me if I had kids and I said yes and I think that he might have made up the married thing as he wanted to run a mile when he knew that. Doesn't make any difference does it anyway?? Thanks

When you stop feeling tired & hungover you will see this is nothing & that to be concerned about wasting 3 hrs of yr life a bit OTT!

Its no use looking for the ring (I've done it too!) because so many men don't wear one - or could take it off. And asking people you meet if they're married is difficult, may seem weird or again they can lie.

You are massively over thinking this. You went out, had a nice time & chatted to random strangers. Lots of nights out are just that.

Maybe you got some confidence back re chatting to men. But you may want to rethink whether you want to go along with someone being so tactile from the off.

He was an utter complete dick. His poor wife! You had a lucky escape.

Don't t beat yourself up. It's rubbish enough sometimes being single, without these awful nasty men leading you on and getting off on their stupid egos.

Yeah thanks for the replies and you are right that it's a total non issue in the grand scheme of things that's for sure. I always overthink things when I have a hangover...! I just want to give last night's flirty me a metaphorical slap right across the face haha
What a nob, at one point I was standing with my back to him and he put his hands on my waist and pulled me closer to him so there was no misreading of his actions by me. His poor wife.

Why would you have asked him earlier, is it so strange to think that married men don't get touch feely with strangers? You had the misfortune to flirt with a grade A knob and when you found out, you got outta there. He behaved appallingly and despite your intoxication you behaved like a class act. Christ, if you feel like this for behaving well, I dread to think the self flagellation that must go on when you behave badly.

Thanks.. I just felt a bit stupid this morning as I did get a bit carried away and was enjoying the attention a little too much!

But attention is lovely! Why wouldn't you enjoy it? You didn't know he's a cheating lowlife. You DID NOT do anything wrong or stupid.

He's the dick.

You did nothing wrong as a PP said you behaved incredibly classily. You didn't continue when you found out but you also didn't make a scene. You're allowed to enjoy the attention and flirt and have a good time, hell if you are both consenting adults and he doesn't turn out to be married/taken get carried away!