Online dating nervousness

[rachlooneytune]

Made a POF account last weekend and have had lots of messages..... but most just say "hi" or "hi how's u" ?

I don't know what to write back (to the people I'm attracted to) and feel so stuck?

I opted to try online dating as I never go out socially (most friends are settled with kids and don't go out much) and I'd really like to find someone. So took the plunge and now I'm all shy!

Aww man that's the worst site🙈 please try eharmony they Are super strange on pof most just want sex and are serial daters xx

Just say hi how are you ? It's a ice breaker x

Write back "hi, I'm rachlooneytune, how are you?" Read their profile so when they respond you can ask them questions about their interests and go from there.

I ignore the ones that just say Hi. These men just go through and say, Hi, Hi, Hi to every woman on there. It's meaningless. There will be better ones that have actually read your profile and are interested in you personally. Those are easier to respond to as they give you something to work with - a question to answer, a mention of something on your profile, etc.

Second BubblingUp. The ones who just say hi or similar are sending the same message to every woman on there in hopes of getting a hit.
Reply to the ones who actually comment on something on your profile and indicate that they're actually messaging you, not any woman on there.
What to say? I think everyone recognises it's awkward but pick something out of their profile and go from there.
Good luck
Also recommend sites other than POF. I know a few MNers have had a lot of luck with it, but I wasn't a fan. OKCupid worked for me (and they've got a 'hide my profile' option you can stick on if you're getting too many messages.)

Hi op
I met my oh on pof and found it the best site for me.
I too didn't respond to the ones who just said hi.
Ask what they have been upto and what their plans are for the weekend.
Then take it from there.
It is awkward at first but remember the men don't know you and everyone is feeling the same.