Diy divorce

[Confusedmummy2017]

Hi,

Please all help me I so fed up living in this unhappy, unhealthy marriage. I told my husband I wanted a divorce and he said he won't agree and refused to move out.

There are lots of reasons I want to divorce he cheated on me with his ex within a yr into our relationship and then told me when I was six months pregnant with our first child together. I chose to stay with him at that point and tried hard to forgive him yet he has been in contact with her again over texts recently about their relationship! he has treated my children like dirt, lets his daughter get away with everything and also has treated our child quite badly he acts like a child when he is disciplining him.

He is unsupportive yet wants my support all the time.

I've just had enough of being the one that gives all the time.

I've contacted McKenzie friends but I've not had any replies so I'm thinking of doing the process myself can anybody tell me how they have got on if they have done this and the First Steps?

Thank you

It is perfectly possible to do a DIY divorce without a lawyer. You can download the forms from the internet, complete them and send them to the relevant court with a fee.

HOWEVER this will only work where neither party is contesting, where there are no arrangements for dependent children and no financial arrangements that are likely to be disputed.

You need legal advice I'm afraid as this isn't going to be one of those divorces you can do yourself.

I've been for legal advice bit they said it will cost loads I don't have the money I work part time and hubby hides his money another issue. Any experience of mackenzie friend?

Mackenzie friend is usually for the court appearances.

You can apply for a divorce yourself and cite unreasonable behaviour.This will then go to your H.

However as you are married you will need to decide how children's residency will work and what about finances.

If your H is not agreeing to move then it's very difficult to progress.You may need to move out or if it's a owned property put the house on the market.

Your h does not have to agree to a divorce (he could contest it bit would likely to be advised to just accept it).

Either you start the divorce process, to end the marriage, but still live together until housing resolved or you move out so the physical separation happens.

Generally most reasonable people accept the marriage has ended..perhaps he feels it's just threats.If that's the case you may need to reiterate firmly but kindly that you can't stay in the marriage.

If you fear for your safety in anyway then do call the police.