Backstory: I’ve been single for nearly seven years. Honestly can’t remember the last time I went on a date – maybe two years ago. It’s rare for me to meet men I find attractive who are single, straight, looking for a relationship, etc, etc – so when I met a guy online who seemed lovely, I was chuffed.
We spoke for about a month (email, texts) before we met up – this was largely because we were each away for a week for work. When we finally met up, we had a lovely evening – lots to talk about, lots of chemistry etc. Kissed at the end of the date – all good.
We both agreed that night that we’d like to meet up again, then again by text a couple of days later. We tentatively arranged a second date (along the lines of ‘shall we see what the weather’s like at the weekend?’) – then I got a nasty bout of flu which meant I had to cancel. Another week went by, another date arranged – then he got flu...another date arranged, but he was still ill.
Third week – I suggested a couple of dates and he said things like ‘that sounds great, I’ll need to check my diary at work’ and ‘I think I might be seeing friends that day’. I left it up to him to come back to me.
By the start of the fourth week, he still hadn’t come back to me – and by this point, the frequency of the messages had dwindled, so I assumed he wasn’t interested anymore / had met someone else. Prior to this, we’d been messaging every evening.
After a few days, he sent me a message and asked if I was ok. We ended up having a conversation about communication styles / frequencies etc, and he reiterated that he was very interested and would love to meet up again. I replied ‘Great – let me know when you’re free – how about x or x’
That was two weeks ago!
Since then, he’s sent me a few messages which I’ve replied to but I haven’t suggested any more dates or mentioned meeting up again. I feel like if he wanted to see me, he’d make the effort to find out when he’s free and suggest some dates. He seemed really really keen, and now, this.
AIBU to wonder WTF? To block him? To ask him what's going on?
Yes, he’s just a bloke I’ve met once, and two months ago I didn’t know he existed – but as I mentioned, it’s really rare for me to meet someone I like....
Disclaimer: I have anxiety and have had a really really shitty week so judgement may be skewed. Please be kind!