Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

My other half

28 replies

user1497621229 · 16/06/2017 15:03

Can someone please tell me if I am going crazy!! My fiancé always jokes about how he hates me in my glasses, which is a bit annoying because he makes me feel bad for wearing them sometimes but it's not too bad. Last night he stops me touching him intimately because I have them on in bed and says that if I want to continue then I should take them off. He says that I am sooo attractive with them off and he just cannot be attracted to me sexually or otherwise when I have them on. I got upset because I would never feel this way about him, I get turned on by him because it is him and he is calling me a drama queen and that I would prefer to be lied to. He isn't backing down on this and I cannot seem to make him see that he is being rude and hurtful. Saying he loves me despite the fact I wear them doesn't help. Am I overreacting by getting upset? Is he normal? Am I? Am I crazy like he says? Help and advice much appreciated...xx

OP posts:
thunderyclouds · 19/06/2017 20:53

Don't marry him. If he is so looks fixated how do you imagine your marriage is going to be when age has faded your looks and kids have changed your body? Not great is my guess. Marry a man who loves you for you.

RunRabbitRunRabbit · 19/06/2017 21:05

Wearing glasses is a deal breaker for him. You wear glasses. It's a deal breaker. You don't have a fiance any more. You have dodged a bullet there.

Maybe you could take against something important to him. Perhaps you will find it impossible to be near him if he has had a drink in the last two weeks or isn't wearing a purple tank top or doesn't have a hipster beard oiled heavily.

BeeBlu · 20/06/2017 10:25

Ummmm, isn't he supposed to love you for you regardless? HUGE red flag! If he doesn't see how his statements hurt you, then I can't see him caring about much else. Just think, if you marry this man you will have to deal with this for the rest of your married life. Is this something that you can put up with?

New posts on this thread. Refresh page