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I have to run away and leave the life I love behind

10 replies

MotherPie · 15/06/2017 18:24

and I'm terrified. I love my job, I love being so close to my parents and siblings and seeing them daily, I have a lovely new boyfriend. I'm being moved miles away due to my horribly abusive ex.

I know it will get better for this limbo in between is awful. Has anyone gone through this? What happens with abusive ex's having contact with DC? I don't ever want to see him again.

OP posts:

Aquamarine1029 · 15/06/2017 18:48

Running away is not the answer.

BastardGoDarkly · 15/06/2017 18:51

Why must you move? Can't you get a restraining order?

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MotherPie · 15/06/2017 21:07

Because his family are nuts (cousin has broken in to my house etc) and I live in the same road as his parents and cousin. the council have experience dealing with them and have advised me to move.

OP posts:

Aquamarine1029 · 15/06/2017 21:24

The council should force THEM to move. You need to get the police involved and document EVERYTHING.

jeaux90 · 15/06/2017 21:26

Yep I'm with Aqua but then I ran 6000 miles to get away from my ex.

blankface · 15/06/2017 21:34

The council should force THEM to move

but then they'd all know where Op was

Missb00 · 15/06/2017 22:33

Do you have to move so far away??

JayneAusten · 15/06/2017 22:40

Go. None of that other stuff matters as much as being safe.

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MotherPie · 16/06/2017 01:13

I wish the council could force them all to move! Unfortunately they won't though. I should be speaking to the police at some point anyway as the council are going to try and arrange for them to present on the day I move.

My son is going to hate me for moving away from his dad

OP posts:

WhatsGoingOnEh · 16/06/2017 01:19

Could you move back in with your family, or rent privately with a sibling, or with flat mates?

I just moved - well, 2 years ago now! - a good 45 minutes from all my friends, and I'm still regretting it. Moving away from family is SO tough when you have DC. Losing your lovely job, etc - it all sounds crap.

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