How would you take this?

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So last night I fell as sleep on the sofa and my partner awake sat on the sofa and then woke up And me and my partner went to bed. I could tell he was off with me Because he wasn't cuddling me as usual and just seem like he was distant with me so I asked him if I had done anything to upset him and he said it's just his hayfever annoying him ( he gets it bad) so I left him to it. This morning he was the same. Off with me as well. I asked him if he's sure I didn't do anything because how can he keep blaming her hayfever as to why he's off with me when he's had hayfever since the start of summer and been fine with me then. He then started kicking off shouting ' just leave me alone I don't want to come near you I don't want touch you.' And threatened to throw the kettle at me ( not with words but I could see him reaching for it)
Did I really deserve this? Is his hayfever really an excuse to treat me like this.
I think that he had an issue but didn't want to tell me and just wanted to use it as a stick to beat me with. Why would you be off with someone just because he has hayfever? Am I being unreasonable to think there could be more?

There has to be more to it than this. How is your relationship in general?

Er that doesn't sound like hayfever. Either you've done something or he's done something. Is there anything it could be?

Talking in your sleep about someone maybe?

Too much drama.
If he's 'off', with you and you ask him why and he responds moodily, just let him get on with it. Who told you that you're responsible for his moods and why on earth to automatically assume you've done something wrong?
You need to work on your self esteem, your self confidence and get assertive OP.
Urgently.
If people want to behave like knobs, ignore them. You really are not responsible for all the knobs in the world (there are very many, sadly) And even better, find someone who isn't a knob.

You aren't the op who dreamt about Jeremy Corbyn last week are you?
Kettle is the least of your worries. .

Do you have anything to hide that he might have looked at when you were sleeping? Messages on your phone etc?
If nothing to hide then it sounds like he's being incredibly unfair treating you like that. Don't think I could date someone with tendencies to be moody and aggressive like that!

Could he have found anything on your phone?

Thanks everyone
No there is nothing he could have found. I'm a stay at home mum don't have time for anything else. He has been of all day. Ignored my calls and text. It has been on what's app. Is apparently doing some decorating work for someone. Just hate feeling like this

If that was my husband I'd tell him to stay at his parents for a few days and calm the fuck down!! Rather unnecessary!!

Is he talking to you again yet?

I'd call him on it. Tell him you love him but how things are at the moment isn't good enough and you need to talk through how things can be improved.

I think everyone can be off but it how you respond when it's pointed out your behaviour is unacceptable that counts.