Feeling envious of neighbour

[MrsBotox]

Just had a walk with a neighbour of mine and the dogs. We have been doing this a couple of times a week for a year or two. We don't have a great deal in common tbh, apart from dog walking, but I feel somehow smaller after seeing her if that makes sense.
She is always off on weekends away, holidays, classes etc which she tells me about in detail. This year it's been New Zealand and India, BBQ weekend with friends in country, long weekend with the family, New York at half term, cinema visit with someone else and so on.
She tells me all about this in detail.
She is also wealthy, has a great home and owns several properties.
I only have a couple of friends and DP and I don't have any joint friends, not much family and live a fairly quiet life, which is OK. We are also not wealthy.
I guess it's just envy which makes me feel sort of left out? Superficial and shallow, I know, but I am finding her company tiring. Anyway, just wanted to have a moan. Thanks.

Could you not slowly decrease the amount of time you spend with her until you simply don't see her? The jealousy is your issue not hers but there is no need to spend time with someone who makes you feel bad about yourself.

I've come off of fb and instagram for the same reason.... I was so envious of my friends lives. But you never know how happy someone actually is from the brief snap shot they show you and either way it's wasted time and emotion.

People with money tend to gravitate towards other people in the same boat because they have the funds for a similar life style and can share plans and experiences. Your feelings are quite natural, especially since dog walking seems to be the only thing you and she have in common.

Your neighbours life might seem so perfect from the outside but it's probably not behind doors, maybe she talks to you because you listen and her other friends are fed up of hearing it all. Throwing your wealth in someone's face isn't a nice trait. Maybe do less walking with her and just back off.

Thanks guys, feel a lot better now.

Come and live next to me Op. You'll come back from our dog walks full of positivity and feeling great. It's a gift I don't mind sharing . I'm quite dull and never do anything remotely interesting though

On my way Maiden .

This person sounds quite boring and self absorbed, OP. I'm v active and go on lots of trips and holidays and have weekends away, but if I talked about these experiences in detail, i think my friends would keel over from boredom. Most of my friends seem surprised when I'm away again as it hasn't come up in discussion because why would it. I prefer to talk about interesting stuff, current affairs, philosophy, psychology, talks I've been to, plays I want to see, feelings, opinions on politics, it doesn't have to be heavy if you don't know her that well. Anything to stop hearing about the minutiae of her holidays, who cares ! Unless she's been diving in the Galapagos or trekking in Nepal or somewhere really fascinating I can't think of anything more boring, she sounds like she has little self awareness. No wonder you leave her feeling drained I'd bin personally

It does sound as if she's got a rather materialistic take on life and you perhaps don't have much in common. Does she ask about you, your past experiences, what you think about the recent election/Brexit? Or are you just an audience for her smugness (or maybe, a fantasy version of a not-so-sweet life ?)

I would offer to dog walk but I have an old, arthritic cat who shits everywhere! I also have a crap job and virtually no social life. You'd feel fab going out walking with me!!