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How to handle nasty Ex?

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isitjustme2017 · 14/06/2017 16:27

I'm sure many of you have been there. Split up with him and he moved out a couple of weeks ago. House is under offer.
He has always been horribly tight with money. I used to pay for big stuff such as holidays and he would never offer to pitch in. It was one of the main reasons we split. Things he has done/is doing:

  • lying about how much he earns in order to pay less maintenance.
  • being awkward about the sale of the house
  • demanding money from me that he 'gave' me to pay off a credit card when we applied for mortgage (he has no credit card debt as doesn't pay for anything)
  • insisting on charging buyers for all our fitted blinds (he says he would rather throw them in a skip than include them with the house)
  • Insisting that it is, in fact, ME who is trying to rip him off
  • reckons I have been 'fleecing' him for years
  • Lying and contradicting me about how much we paid for things in the house
  • thinks I should pay all solicitor and estate agent fees because I'm the one choosing to break up (I can't afford to)

The list goes on. Lets just say he is money OBSESSED. And he is now trying to make out its actually me who has been leeching off him for years!!!!
I could cry with frustration but I need him to sign the solicitor paperwork this week so am too scared to rock the boat. I just ignore his nasty texts and have had to agree to give him this money back in case he loses us the buyers.
He;s still controlling me even though he has moved out. I want to physically slap him and giving him this money is making me want to kill him (Its all I have left).

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Shayelle · 14/06/2017 16:44

Dont cry with frustration. Cry with happiness cos youve finally got shot of the miserly cunt. Time to celebrate Grin

isitjustme2017 · 14/06/2017 16:53

Haha yes well there is an element of that feeling too Shayelle . I suppose I hate still dancing to his tune.
Its true though, it just confirms how much I made the right decision getting shot of him!!

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Shayelle · 14/06/2017 16:55

Can you just get your solicitor to deal with him? So you dont have to anymore. Good luck youll soon be free as a bird Smile

isitjustme2017 · 14/06/2017 16:57

That would take time and money (I don't have). He holds the trump card too. My parents loaned us the deposit (but stupidly without a proper repayment agreement). The money leftover from the sale needs to go back to them but he is within his rights to take half of it!
My solicitor says there is nothing I can do. This is why I'm trying to keep him sweet until he signs......

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