Is there a right time to have a baby?

[broodybilly]

Hello all!
Just wondering if there is a right time to have another baby. Me and my DP are bringing up my 5 year old together, she is at school.
We live together, own the house, and are planning our wedding for 16 months time, I can't wait.
I've just finished my second year almost as a student nurse,
And am very broody. There are girls on my course expecting again and I would get a year maternity.
Dp does want another child the same as me but thinks we should wait until I qualify and are married.

I wonder if that is the right decision when I'll qualify, into a job, get married a month later and then be looking at a career break for maternity leave.

I get DPs point, but I'm so broody and I really don't think any time is a 'right time'
Therefore I'd ask you ladies is there a right time?

I would definitely prefer to be married first but that's just me

I found university really hard whilst pregnant, but I couldn't even keep water down, I also found it even more difficult with a young child.

I was a single parent at the time though.

How old are you?

We are both in our 30s

I agree with your DP

I agree with him im afraid!
Its amazing and refreshing that u are giving such consideration to his views tho... in my opinion mens views and wishes are to often over looked then they are bashed and tarnished anyway
U have a lovely wedding to look forward to in the mean time

Thank you all

Why are you waiting 16 months to get married? Go to the registry now and have the party next year. That will at least address on of his concerns.

I don't think there is a right time either & life is short. Like you've said why wait till you're in a new job, you'll need to leave soon after. Also it might take a long while to get pregnant, you never know. If you can get a year maternity and have access to child-care when you go back to work I'd say do it now

I agree with your DH and I would wait long enough to qualify for NHS maternity pay in a job:

The NHS bursary salary I get now would be more than my NHS one.
He wants the whole big white wedding after I qualify, which yes is perfect but realistically we would do it tomorrow.
He worries about money anyway and I have to say despite the fact I'm a student we have a really good income.

It's good however that we can both see each other's way of thinking and appreciate it

I don't know, I remember one student who had several children during her course and took years to finish. I couldn't quite see the point. Focus on one thing or another surely. You've only got one year to go and management is much tougher.

For me it would depend which end of your thirties you are...

I don't think there's a right time as such! It's something only you and your partner can decide really, you could try writing a pros and cons list for both scenarios. And do the maths income wise for both, if that's something that worries him.

I know how you feel a bit though. Our dd wasn't planned, but I already know I want another or two
I'm thinking in 3/4 years my boyfriend if he even agrees at all is thinking in about 10 years!

Do you have a good income become he is a high earner? Or do you have a private income on top of your bursary?

If it's the former, I would absolutely get qualified first. My advice might change if you're late rather than early 30s though.

You only have another year (second year is nearly done). Now is the time to make sure you get qualified.

I think what lazycraz said.

I also agree I would get on with it if I was37-39 but wait if I was 32-34!!